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writes:I get very nervous around girls, and thats why I prefer online dating; I was just wondering what the readers of this site think about online dating? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI signed up to the site 'plentyoffish.com'.I messaged this girl; she messaged me back, who was looking for dating.We messaged back and forth, we texted, then she asked me if she could come over to see me. I wouldn't let her, I dont really know why!We texted and texted, and she wanted to come and see me, so I suggested Saturday. She texted at 12.00, saying she couldn't come because she had a crisis at work (I opened my heart to her a couple of days before saying I'd like a gf but to take it slowly).I texted her back saying it was fine, and we'll do it another time, no reply, texted her Sunday, no reply; she replied yesterday and said 'you're pushing me into a relationship and I'm not looking for one. I just want dating'That's what I want deep down, but I just didn't know the difference!Any advice on what to do?
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Its not a waste of time or money! do it!
these people dont know what are they talking about!
person online can be even more normal than some serial killer you meet in the club or bar! don't worry!! just do it!
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (9 April 2008):
 I know that. I'm sorry if it implied I thought you would lie. I was simply agreeing with you. That's all.
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wasn't saying I'd lie; just giving advice
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (9 April 2008):
You should never lie to someone, online or not. Not unless you have to, anyway.
Lying online is just as bad as lying face to face. It's a bad thing to do. There's no point in it. people who lie online are not to be trusted at all.
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've only had one bad experience with online dating - I didn't actually sign up to a site - we started talking in a chat room, we texted and talked on the phone, we arranged to meet up, she was great. But the second time we met, she wanted to have sex with me! Then when I met her mum, she asked me if I 'intended to have sex with her daughter'!
This hasn't put me off though.
One point I'd like to make, and do readers agree?, is this: if maybe your intention is to one day be intimate with a person you speak to online, why lie? You may spend the rest of your life with them!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (8 April 2008):
 To be honest, i've made a quite a few friends through a couple of different forums. Not dated any as such, but just had coffee with a couple of them in an open place where there are people around, and they have been just as I've imagined them to be. Nothing serious has developed ...yet.....but almost there : )
If you are in contact with someone long enough, say for example through messenger, and you've never met them in person, you'll be surprised how well you can get to know them. By their character through their writing, for eg. you pick up on their sense of humour...you learn about their personal lives and their likes and dislikes.
I suppose in a way it's safer than meeting someone in a pub or club and going off with them back to their place straight away. This way you get a chance to know them better, before making that commitment. There's no hurry in meeting them in person.
I know there are a lot of cranks out there that can trick you into believing a pack of lies about themselves, but in time ~ and eventually you do realise that they can be genuine. You have also that chance of seeing them on webcam and hearing their voice at the same time, if you're in any doubt.
So in my opinion, I think getting to know someone through the internet is a pretty good way of doing it, just be on your guard for fraudsters.
BigSis xXx
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (8 April 2008):
 online dating is a waste or time and moey and effort. get your arse out in the real world
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (8 April 2008):
GO! GO! GO! Do it! It works. Seriously. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. First get to know the person well though. A webcam or microphone would help as it would prove that this person isn't lying to you, but go for it! So many of my friend's parents got together online. Go for it!
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 April 2008):
 It's so easy to be a totally different person online so you just have to hope you aren't wasting too much time on a loser. Good luck, maybe it will help your shyness but sooner or later you are going to have to have a REAL date you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I've only tried it once, arranged to meet up and honestly, he could of been my grandad, bless. Never again. What a lying tosser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I've been going out with my bf for eight months now who I met online. He's not the most perfect person, but then nobody is.
Sidenote: You might find a few crazies first before finding someone good! Be patient, stay focused, and don't make a big deal out of being single. I found someone when I wasn't really looking that hard.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (8 April 2008):
Hi
GO FOR IT!
I met my fiance on match.com (about year ago). It was the best thing I have ever done in my life. Meeting people on a street or in a bar was never good ... it was always only about sex ... if you are really looking for something serious! Do it! I have 5friends that got married over these web sites .. and two others are looking right now!
Good luck
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