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What did my boyfriend mean when he said he loved me "Because you need to feel like someone loves you." ?

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Question - (22 December 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 22 December 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

A few days ago, my boyfriend and I were cuddling and he asked me why I love him. I answered "Because I think we are meant to be together." I asked him the same question and he said "Because you need to feel like someone loves you." I asked him what he meant and he wouldn't answer... what does this mean?

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (22 December 2010):

chigirl agony auntI don't know what it means, but it doesn't sound good. I advice you to have a serious talk and not be afraid to hear the honest truth, it might not be what you want to hear. But it is better to hear it now than later.

My first take at it thought would be that he means he doesn't love you because he actually does, but that he loves you because he thinks thats what you need. It doesn't sound like true love, but more like something he does to keep you around.

If this is a new relationship it could be he just hasn't developed love for you yet, perhaps never will. It could also mean he only says it because it's what you want to hear. Or it could be that he isn't good with words and it came out wrong, BUT if that was the case he would have wanted to EXPLAIN it better. Since he didn't want to elaborate I am afraid he spoke without thinking and then realized he shouldn't have ever said that.

Talk about this, and take a look at his behaviour towards you and him as a person to figure out how he feels for you. Action speaks louder than words.

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A male reader, amicalus Algeria +, writes (22 December 2010):

amicalus agony auntit means he loves you for your well being but not for what you are. man loves for three reasons, inner beauty, outer beauty and sex. your friend loves you for you not to hurt.

sorry

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