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22-25,
*ettyboop23
writes:Hiya, My older boyfried recently broke up with me yestaday as he has been feeling low and has had a lot on his mind. He said I had done nothing wrong but he used to tell me he loved me, I was sexy and gorgeous and that I cud do better but i loved him ad still do. ayways... he text me saying he thinks it better we be friends and I agreed. He text me saying he loves me as a friend and that the age diffrence was just too much but he has said all this to me before but still came running back saying he still wants me. He text me last night saying he feels horrible, all mixed up. I asked what was up he said just feels low. I'll be ok. What did he mean when he said horrible all mixed up?
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reader, GrimmReality  + ♥, writes (4 July 2009):
 Well young lady, can I ask you something?
You mentioned he's unemployed, broke, and is a weed smoker(also known as "Ambition Be Gone").
My question is: knowing that to be the case, why waste any more time on him and his games. If he is older than you and broke with no prospects and a future sitting on the couch watching cartoons while he smokes, what is he doing for you emotionally?
I ask this because I think you already know that answer. You do not deserve to be treated like that, but especially from a deadbeat like this guy!
Take care of yourself!
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reader, bettyboop23 +, writes (4 July 2009):
bettyboop23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dot thik he has cheated thought he has always been the same since ive know him. moody at times. and he can be very nasty whe he is moody. he said he dont need someone caring for him he likes to deal with his problems on his own. at the moment he doesnt have a job, money, ect and its weed he smokes. i think he is to set in his ways to change and but you are right a few people has told me thats he is testig how far i wud go. he has done this age diffrence thing b4 and told me he loves me as a m8 and wen he gets happy again he, tells me he still wants me. but why and what did he mea by horible and all mixed up? did he mean he dont kno what he wats? thak u both for your answers.
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reader, lolagiraffe  +, writes (4 July 2009):
I'm guessing that your age dilemma is starting to get in the way of your dating life. Perhaps someone close to him said something, and he's acting on what they have said as opposed to his gut feeling? You said that he was feeling "all mixed up." Often when I have to choose between my instinct and what my friends are telling me, I feel confused and hurt.
Hang tight! Do you still love him? If the age difference isn't too much for you, tell him how you really feel.
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reader, GrimmReality + ♥, writes (4 July 2009):
It could be any number of things. But "horrible and all mixed up" is most likely to be interpreted as:
"I did something I should not have, and I feel guilty about it because someone we both know saw me, and I want to let you now in a backhanded fashion before you catch wind of it".
When people say they are confused in young relationships, and given the background you have given us, my bet is that he may have cheated. especially with this back and forth about the age difference and then saying he loves you.
It's like someone who goes out and blows their paycheck on crack when they know they have to pay rent. Then they feel all guilty and try to make an excuse why they don't have any money when they were on their way just an hour before to deposit their paycheck at the bank. But the next time he gets a paycheck, he'll be right back on the pipe as long as he can get away with it.
He's testing your reaction to see what he can get away with.
You are young. Chalk this up to experience with idiot guys and go out and find someone who will respect you and not play these silly games on you.
You came and asked the question because your gut was telling you something far different than what he is....trust your gut.
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