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What could be the consequences if my Gf and I did follow through with our wish to have sex, discretely, in a public place?

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Question - (15 April 2016) 10 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2016)
A male Canada age 26-29, *rynn writes:

My gf and I want to experiment more sexually.

She wants to have sex some place public, like a mall changing room or movie theatre . What exactly would happen if we get caught?

She has given me head in a movie but we were pretty discreet about it and no one noticed.

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A male reader, _Brynn__ Canada +, writes (20 April 2016):

Thanks, we've decided not to risk it beyond what we did in the theatre. You can close this question

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 April 2016):

Honeypie agony auntOh I forgot to add... most times, the FANTASY is much better than the reality. Think about that.

Or maybe consider finding like-minded people who likes to watch and be watched? That way you don't offend people who really don't want to see your bare naked butt and whatnot.

And DO consider.. that while it might FEEL like a thrill, there are a LOT of other people in the world that don't.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (16 April 2016):

YouWish agony auntForgot to add this. Let this deter you! Show it to your girlfriend!

**WARNING - while there is no actual sex or body parts shown, there are computer simulated questionable animation, so viewer discretion advised, and mods can make a decision on this**.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8zWudSftSE

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (16 April 2016):

YouWish agony auntWould you want to explain to a future employer why the charges of "indecent exposure" and "lewd act" are on your criminal record?? Both are typically misdemeanors unless it's a CHILD who catches the two of you in the act. Then you're flirting with a felony and a sex offender issue, though that's a long shot.

But seriously, some employers, especially a female employer, would see misdemeanor charges like that and wouldn't bother to ask for an explanation, instead passing you over because what would be going through their mind is masturbation at a mall, flashing someone, or something less fun-risky and more creepy pedophile-ish. You do *not* want that stigma!

And your "head at a movie" thing? GROSS! Do you have any idea how very possible it is that you're on Youtube, Ebaums or some other video sharing site??? With new technology features that sites like Facebook is coming out with facial recognition, do you want 5 years from now to be auto-tagged in a lewd video taken without your knowledge?? I've been in a sports stadium and looked up at the wrong time and saw a couple sitting at the game thinking their windbreaker was hiding the handjob she was giving him. Just do an internet search on stuff like that, and let that sink in for a bit. I'm not even talking porn sites. I'd never do anything like that in today's "Everyone's got an HD camcorder in their pocket" era!

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (16 April 2016):

I think this is a really dumb idea but that doesn't mean you won't do it.

If you do, make absolutely sure that it is in a place where there is no chance of any children seeing you. You might get into VERY serious trouble with dire consequences if you were to expose children to this sort of thing.

Doing this would also be an act of being extremely selfish. It could very likely have a negative impact on anyone who discovers you, it could result in an adverse economic impact for the place of business if this were to be publicized, and your parents could end up very humiliated (in addition to paying court costs) if you are caught.

This is just a bad thing on so many levels. Even at your age I would have had the sense to dump this girl if she insisted on it.

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (16 April 2016):

mystiquek agony auntHumiliation, being arrested, having your name and picture in the paper...My daughter works for the city police and my son in law is a sheriff. It is against the law and if caught..you're going to be embarressed. Worth it?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 April 2016):

Honeypie agony auntLegally?

The Criminal Code of Canada states it's illegal to have sex in a "public place," which is defined as "any place to which the public has access as a right or by invitation."

In Canadian law, the issue isn't whether you were "technically" inside or outside-- the issue is whether you can be observed from public places.

If you were to receive a summary conviction in federal court, you could face a fine of no more than $2,000, imprisonment for six months, or both.

Does that mean you will likely get prosecuted if caught? Apparently not. It all depends on the PLACE you choose and WHO caught you.

While I get the "thrill" I hope you and your GF have some common sense and don't do it where kids can be unwilling bystanders. And a changing room? Sorry... EWW! People go in there to try on clothes not to get cum stains on their clothes from some randy couple.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2016):

Well, my BF and I were also in a theatre and he had his hand underneath my pants and brought me to orgasm a few times. I was very quiet and tried hard to contain myself but man was it good! ;)

We were also in a car in a public place making out in a rainstorm. I will never forget it. It was pretty intense. And very naughty. Perhaps this added to the intensity. We never had sex but we were both brought very close to the edge.

We also had sex in a hot tub and a pool, both at hotels.

Also in our studio where we work, we have had sex several times. On the desk more than once. Against the desk. On the floor. More than once. Against a wall. Lots. I straddled him on a chair in a dance studio. And wouldn't you know it? The heater repair man walked in on us! It was pretty crazy! My bf let out a nervous laugh and shot up like a bat out of hell and got those pants back on real quick. And I was like a deer in the headlights. Totally shocked but it did not bother me as much. But the heater guy luckily took off pretty quickly. I am sure he did not want to be there!! He was probably just as embarrassed!! And good thing he never reported us. That could have been very messy.

We also had sex several times behind the place we work in his car or mine. In daylight or after nightfall. I gave him a blow job behind a trucking company in broad daylight. To this day he is still uneasy about that but in the moment he was totally loving it.

Soon we will be on a beach in the warm weather. Who knows what we will get into! Lol I am definitely more adventurous than my boyfriend and always lead him down a different road.

There is an excitement to it. I fully agree. And I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you don't get caught, seen or charged by the police! But of course you need to remember this is risky behaviour nonetheless so be prepared to accept any consequences. Again, perhaps the fact there are consequences is what is most appealing because many people get off on danger and things which are taboo.

I am sure many people here are going to say what are you thinking and you are crazy but in my opinion, all's fair in love and war. Just don't get caught!

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (16 April 2016):

Depends. Maybe nothing. However, if someone calls the police you could be arrested and charged with a crime. In my city fairly recently a couple was caught in a strange place, arrested, and their mugshots plastered all over the local news with of course hundreds of user comments poking fun at them.

Is it worth the potential humiliation?

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (16 April 2016):

Depends. Maybe nothing. However, if someone calls the police you could be arrested and charged with a crime. In my city fairly recently a couple was caught in a strange place, arrested, and their mugshots plastered all over the local news with of course hundreds of user comments poking fun at them.

Is it worth the potential humiliation?

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