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writes:Dear all,I am going to be meeting this girl for the first time in the near future.Background:Found her a few weeks before I started university on Facebook. She was starting at the same time as me and we had some similar interests. I started flirting a bit and went a bit too far. I failed to communicate a couple of things clearly and I think we both got annoyed and maybe even slightly with each other's responses. By the time uni started there we hadn't had any contact for at least a week or so, and I was certain that we both felt some degree of animosity towards each other.For a while after starting I was really worried that I would see her and there would be some kind of awkward "confrontation" (for want of a better word).I finally decided to do the right thing and send her an email apologising. She was understanding and said I hadn't really said anything exceptionally stupid. I was touched that she was so understanding.She seems to have been having some difficult times here. I think she may have got together with someone only to split up unhappily shortly after. When I see she from her status she isn't happy I ask how she is doing, and she says she appreciates it that I ask. I find it quite touching that she said that and will talk to me even despite everything.I still felt a bit uneasy though. And I decided the best thing to do would be to meet sometimes. Maybe not even to talk about what was said, but merely so we can meet and have a sensible chat so I won't have to worry about any awkward future incident.But I need to know what I can say to her. What can I say to give a better impression of myself? What can I say to make her feel at ease? The only thing I hope to get from this meeting is to try and eliminate any animosity or hostility.I am posting again, not because I am unhappy with the other answers but because I also want to ask how and where we could meet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. All I want is to get rid of any ill feeling, and maybe one day we will be able to be friends. I seek nothing more.
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reader, BLONDII3  +, writes (19 October 2008):
 The best thing to do is meet somewhere nice and quiet, so you find it easier to communicate and talk but also somewhere with a few distractions to bail you out if it gets way too awkward. Let her know how you're feeling (about being awkward about any previous hostility)and then just talk about general things like what you're studing at uni etc etc but try to avoid talking about relationships on your first couple of meetings!! It'll all work out Fine, so don't keep worrying about it!! the more worried you get about it, the more awkward you'll be when you meet her! Good Luck xxxx
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