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anonymous
writes:Help me! I keep feeling sexual urges. I know I can't have sex at this age, and not for a long time yet, but why do I keep feeling like this? I can't tell my friends, they'll think I'm a pervert. Can I stop this? Am I the only one? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (4 June 2014):
 You have had some great advice here, also at 13 with sexual urges you need to be careful that you don't let anybody talk you into doing anything sexual. As your body changes and you go through puberty you will develop breasts, a more womanly figure. You will start to be noticed by boys in a different way. Please make sure nobody takes advantage of your urges.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2014): It's completely normal.
But part of growing up is learning to manage these feelings and act on them only at the right time, with the right people. Sexuality can be an extremely powerful tool for a young girl. Use it wisely.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (3 June 2014):
Dear OP,
I also started to have sexual urges at your age. This is only showing you are slowly becoming a woman, it's very natural. You don't have to stop this, it's part of being a grown up. And biologically, you will be a grown-up soon, with your period, pubic hair, the capacity to have sex and become pregnant. Without sexuality, there would be no life on earth, so don't be scared of those urges. They are strong because they are an ancient force that survives all times (or so I think of it).
Since you are very young, too young to have sex in my opinion, I recommend you start to masturbate when you feel like it. I know I know, some parents are very conservative, so you might have been raised with the idea that masturbation is wrong, or unhealthy, or very unusual for girls. I've been raised that way. But I see this as a mistaken view. I think us women should be friends with our bodies, we should know what brings us pleasure and what doesn't. (The same goes for boys, of course.)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (3 June 2014):
 Good news!!! NOT ONLY are you NOT "the only one"..... BUT ALSO you are amongst a large majority!!!!! Just about every person at - or, near - to your age goes through this (boys, too!)....
P.S. The masturbating suggestion is spot-on. You will learn that you will NOT: A. Go blind, or, B. Go mad, or, C. Begin growing hair on the palms of your hands. (It took me several decades to learn this!!!!).
Good luck... and have fun....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2014): Have you tried masturbating? It happened the same to me when I was your age and that's what I did. I don't think it is a big problem if and when you control yourself and know that you can't have sex neither when you're 13 nor with anyone. You'll have to wait till you're older and do it with the person you love.
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