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writes:What can i do to stop myself from constantly bringing the past up to my boyfriend? I always look back on our relationship and wonder about stupid stuff. for example, we started going out 2 years ago, and when we first started going out, i can remember going to a party, and i called him and asked him to come out and party, but he said he just wanted to stay home... now i look back at it, and im really anxious to ask him if he really did stay home or not.. it's little stuff like that that makes me paranoid.. I hate it! he's never cheated on me or anything, but the longer and longer we've been together, the more antsy i get about asking stupid things. and i guess the only reason i think it is weird he didn't want to go out that night is because ultimetly, he's the type who wouldn't want to stay home on a friday night, but i think im just being crazy right now...Please help to stop me from asking him this ridiculous question..it's only gonna cause us to fight!!...i think another problem i have is that i've cheated on him before and i think that it's almost too good to be true that he's never slipped up(which he probably didn't!!!), but since i've slipped up, now im just driving myself crazy, and what's even crazier is that he forgave me for cheating!! WTF is my problem!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your advice..You are completely right, i don't think i have forgave myself.i am so paranoid!!
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reader, JennayyyCx3 +, writes (26 January 2009):
 You need to forgive YOURSELF. The sooner you do that the sooner you wont keep this thought in your head all the time that your not good enough for him now so hes prolly looking elsewhere. Us girls are psychos, we over analize everything. But if you have those questions just ask him innocently not hinting at anything. He knows how it feels to be cheated on, and if he really cares about you he wont want to inflict that same pain on you. Relax a bit off him, just concentrate on being a good girlfriend to him. You made a mistake, he obviously cares about you to stay with you even though you put him through that. He seems like a good guy.
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