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writes:Hi All, my ex gf of 2 years broke up with me about 2 months ago saying that she didnt have *them* feelings for me anymore. We had a hard last few months of both of us not really being interested, and making little effort. I guess I knew it was coming, although it was still a horrible feeling when it did. She assured me she still loved me and cared for me, and I did believe her at that point, I said the same to her, she said it wasnt because of anyone else, "she just needed some time alone to sort herself out". She wanted help her mum get over her illness, help move house and learn to drive. She said she wasnt interested in seeing anyone.8 weeks later, shes going on a date, and seemingly "rubbing it in" by making it obvious on myspace, her friends asking what she's wearing, where shes going etc.. with her acting all excited back to them, right in front of my face.I do feel like im over her, and although it makes me feel down sometimes, on the whole I've been good. I've got alot of things in my life, great family and friends, good job, playing rugby every week.What is this wierd feeling ive got? How am I meant to feel? What can I do knowing she's out with some other guy being all happy? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): First, stay away from her myspace page, unless you enjoy tormenting yourself. You said it, you both agreed to the break up, so now move on. Remember, she isn't tormenting you, your doing it to yourself at this point.
Move on!
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reader, Tanya101  +, writes (18 April 2008):
I don't think she's trying to rub it in your face. Otherwise she wouldn't have been nice to you when she broke up with you.
Perhaps she began to resent being in a relationship, and wanted to go out and meet other people, before having to settle down.
If you're not TOO bothered about her, you can go out see other people, or just carry on with your life. If you are the age it says, you are still really young, you have your entire life ahead of you.
And if she sees you with other people, and not worrying or thinking about her, it might make her jealous, and come back to you.
The feeling you have isn't un common, even if you did know it was going to happen. You can prepare yourself for what's going to happen for a life time, but it still hits like a tone of bricks when it happens. And, it's the in pack of the last few months of your relationship as well.
Anyway, all you can do is forget about her, I know it's harder to do then it sounds. But it can be done. Unless you really want her back more then anything, you can do the most romantic thing for her. But then it will hurt even more if she refuses your offer.
The best of luck.
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reader, awesome +, writes (18 April 2008):
 I know how you feel.. Well kinda. Me and my boyfriend of also two years are in the process of breaking up. We have been very distant and when we do talk its just to fight. I sometimes feel like I really love him but other times its like I'm so tired of the way he is I really don't care. Well, ofcourse you are going to feel very sad I mean it was 2 years. And its normal to feel that way. I know I would feel horrible if I found out my boyfriend after just 2 months is happily dating. But the best thing to do is wait.. Have you guys talked during the time you guys been broken up? If you guys have, then it means she probably moved on faster than you have and she really doesn't care about you. If not, then she is probably doing it get a reaction from you. Either way the only thing you could do is distract yourself and give it time. Like you said you feel like you're getting over her already. Good luck.
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reader, salvation +, writes (18 April 2008):
move on man if she has moved on and is happy then you should move on too and be happy. Its not easy i know but try your best to take your mind off her. There is not a lot that you can do besides move on with your life.
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