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What can cause a man lose sexual interest in his wife?

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Question - (21 June 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 22 June 2009)
A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

What can cause a man lose sexual interest in his wife?

Is it something very common,or it isn't?

Are most marriages going toward no sexual intimacy?

Because its hard to know what goes on, if your life is different from others/

So ,what is REAL on this subject?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009):

there are mainly two causes for this problem

1-)physical like when soem wifes loose allot of wieght or gain allot of weight

2-) continuous refusal and rejection from the wife

well cause a total loss of interrest

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009):

I'm quite sure it's more common than people realise. Medical problems like erectile dysfunction aside, the most likely reasons that spring to my mind are the wife letting herself go by putting on weight and not making the same effort to look her best that she did before getting married. The same applies to men of course!

The start of any relationship tends to be sexually frantic but the novelty wears off as the couple settle down into a more normal routine. Quantity sex is replaced by quality, one would hope. After let's say 20 years of marriage, the tendency is to take one another for granted and resentments start to creep in. That's quite a passion killer on its own, and if there's teenagers running riot around the house, privacy is somewhat restricted and that would compound the situation.

Why do you ask?

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A male reader, Your friend Australia +, writes (21 June 2009):

Your friend agony auntIts a really good question and one that is not often asked, and should be. There are lots of reasons but lets start with some common ones. Women aren't the only ones who lose interest as they move into their change of life men do too, any source of ongoing stress at work, being tired all the time, being depressed and not knowing it, feeling anxious all the time, knowing that more has been spent that month then they have. Symptoms include be indecisive, irritable, not much energy, lethargic etc. The other answer to your question is that it is very common more so then men would like to admit what makes it worse is that they don't want to or can't talk about it. The question is how to turn it around. Sitting down for a really good talk is a start. He will probably say there is nothing wrong even if there is, so persist. Go easy as this is an area that can be a minefield to work through. Don't make it sound like it is his problem but rather a good time to explore some fun and exciting sexual adventures. Consider suggesting erotic movies, going to a sex shop, buying some sex toys. This should create some interest, encourage him, once he becomes interested this wil take on a life of its own. Erotic movies for men is a big turn on so it would be good to start with that. without being threatening initiate things yourself but not in familiar suroundings. See how this goes and feel free to communicate about this with me if youy want.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009):

I think men get tired as they get older? Maybe ask him if he wants you to ride him.

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