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writes:Poll (just for fun). For women and men, for you, what are the top 5 "MUST HAVES" and the top 5 "CAN'T STANDS" when evaluating members of the opposite sex as a potential lifelong partner?I guess mine would beMust Haves:friendly dispositionreasonably attractiveat leaste somewhat outgoingIntelligentstableCan't stands:rude, inconsiderateexcessive preocupation with her own looksnever tries anything newis a slobDoes nothing to keep themselves in good shape Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr Clark +, writes (17 December 2010):
Mr Clark is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, good answers all around! I may need to edit my list.
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female
reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Jmtmj, Oh yes, they're in the correct descending order. A nice pinchable rear is indeed a must have!
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female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 December 2010):
 Likes:
1 - Sense of humor. (the good kind ;) )
2 - Honest.
3 - Intelligent.
4 - Faithful.
5 - Attractive & Attentive.
Dislikes:
1 - liars.
2 - abusive.
3 - lazy.
4 - stupid/ignorant
5 - having an Ex wife... Too much DRAMA!
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female
reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Must Have's: A pulse, own hair, height, IQ higher than a goldfish and a spine.
Can't stand: Huge pot belly, no job or hope of one, clingy-needy behaviour, debts, sexism.
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female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Must have:
1. Intelligence
2. Ambition
3. Good manners
4. Makes me laugh
5. Smells nice!
Cant stand:
1. Bad hygeine
2. No ambition or drive to achieve anything in life
3. Boring conversation/no interests
4. nasty fingernails & toenails
5. big muscles
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): MUST have (in order):
1. Sweet look to her face
2. Active and physically fit
3. Nice big round boobies
4. Easy going personality
5. Adventurous
MUST NOT have (in order):
1. Mean/bitchy/prone to anger
2. Fat
3. Disgusting personal habits (burping, farting, eating w/mouth open, etc)
4. Nit picker (see bitchy above)
5. Frivolous spender on appearance, hair, nails, clothes (e.g. Anyone who owns more than 20 pairs of shoes).
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Can't Stand men:-who scratch their 8alls while talking to me/ adjusting their package (sorry not being rude but this is a total No No for me)- dishonesty- who do not have a sense of human- who look down upon others- who can't please their wives/partners (basically men who do not know how to 'do it'- dirty men (no personal hygiene) sorry this is #6Must Haves, men - who are loyal,dependable and honest - who can fix things around the house. He mustnt look at a tool and try to figure out what to do with it- who still open doors for women, still hold her hands while out and shopping- who are good kissers,and explorative hands- who are family oriented and who don't feed of women There are so many more but the above comes to mind almost immediately.LoveGirl
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Must have:
- Education/Intelligence
- Considerate and Kind
- Attractive
- Good manners
- Ambitious/Adventurous
Can't stand:
-Smokers
-Religious people
- Rude
- Dishonest
- fat
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male
reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Hahaha! Tennistar, I am shocked... number one... nice rear??
*discreet high 5*
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Must have
- A job
-His own teeth
-Physically fit
- Loyal
- Taller than me (5'9 or above)
Can't stand
-Unemployed
-Obese
-Mummy's boy
-Bad hygiene
-Smoker
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female
reader, dmartin89 +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Mine is exactly the same as lagentsgirl89!
Luckily I have found my guy :-)
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female
reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 December 2010):
Oh what fun!
"Must haves"
1. Nice rear
2. Intelligence of some sort
3. Motivation
4. Honesty (which should be a given)
5. Compassion
"Can't Stand"
1. Conceitedness
2. Lack there of sense of humor
3. Clingy
4. Possessive
5. That steroid muscular look
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male
reader, doublejack +, writes (17 December 2010):
Must haves:
1. Physically fit & active, has to keep up with me
2. Intelligent, has to challenge me & keep me on my toes
3. Good values, has to have a value system that is compatible with my own
4. Close with family and a desire to have children
5. Attractive, but this is somewhat subjective
Can't stands:
1. Smoking
2. Overweight
3. Poor values - too many partners or a history of one night stands is a disqualification
4. Head in the clouds - I'm down to earth and am a pretty frugal fellow. Big spenders aren't my type.
5. Valley girl - If she's not smart it simply won't last
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female
reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (17 December 2010):
 My five must haves:
1. Good with children and loving/caring towards them. Family man.
2. Communication and blatant honesty even if I don't want to hear it.
3. Faithful.
4. Intelligent and trustworthy.
5. Sense of humor.
My five Can't Stands
1. Overly possessive or controlling
2. I have to give him every detail of my day and what my future plans are and where I'll be at every second of the day, but he jumps down my throat when I ask him where he is going.
3. He can't stand children or can't be around them.
4. Can't keep his pants zipped and gives me every excuse in the book as to why he can't.
5. No goals in life. No ambition and unable to hold down a job.
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female
reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Likes:
1. Fun and outgoing
2. Loves me for who i am
3. (Random one) cheeky grin
4. Nice eyes
5. Isn't afraid to show his emotions
Dislikes:
1. Someone that does drugs
2. Cheaters
3. A guy who thinks he is 'Gods gift' to women
4. A guy who wont let me pay my way
5. A guy with a nipple piercing (makes me gag)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): An interesting challenge... it's not really something I've considered like this. Okay, here goes.
1) Must haves:
Personality
- easygoing nature
- natural intelligence
- considerate
Looks
- open face (welcoming eyes and smile)
- deportment
2) Must nots
Personality
- Self-centred
- Vain
- Slow-witted
- Insincere
Looks
- large/bulky
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Must haves (in no specific order);
Intelligent
A curiosity in life, likes asking questions
Intense eyes
A laid back free nature
An air of mystery
Dislikes (again, without order);
A violent nature
Verging on being an idiot
Anger issues/ shouting
Ridiculous awful overly visible muscles
Overconfidence/ cockiness
My boyfriend is spot on perfect :)
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male
reader, Odds +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Must have: similar screwed-up sense of humor to mine, cute face, reasonable capacity for intelligent conversation, good Christian values, love of dancing.
Can't stand: taking privilege for granted (whether from rich daddy or good looks), slutty past, fat, short hair, unfeminine behavior.
Granted, I've been close friends with girls who do not meet these criteria. They're great girls and I wish them the best. I just know that we wouldn't be compatible - doesn't make them bad people. Preferences are funny that way.
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male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 December 2010):
Likes:1 - Confidence2 - Independence.3 - Reasonably intelligent. 4 - Able to hold a conversation. 5 - Physically Active.Dislikes - the opposite of everything above.
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female
reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (17 December 2010):
well my five top must have is :-1. attractive both mentally and physically2. financially strong3. Famous4. Loveable5. Intelligent and cutemy 5 can't stand:-1. being selfish2. smoker3. alcoholic addict4. drug addict5. nerd
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