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writes:I was wondering what people actually thought about the MRS America contest.Do people think it is a good thing for married women to try out for or do they feel sorry for these women trying out or that they may have self esteem issues and need some sort of title to boost their confidence.Pros and cons answers appreciated.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2014): If you DO have self esteem issues, then I recommend not entering. People will be VERY critical of your body, and if you don't have the confidence to begin with, their comments will hit you that much harder.
If you are doing it just for fun, then I say go for it.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (19 June 2014):
 Do they still do the bathing suit "fitness" thing? If so, scratch it off your "to do" list. I read that one of the former contestants of the Miss America pageant suggested a "boot camp" type event to help gauge a contestants fitness level. She could never get support because the "bathing suit" contest was one of the major draws of the event, even though it has absolutely NOTHING to do with fitness.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2014):
 I don't really think too often about pageants, except when some of the children's ones hit the news for one reason or another. Those can make me cringe.
If an adult wants to try out for a pageant, more power to her. I wouldn't expect a contestant to have low self-esteem or need a confidence boost, because if they didn't have a strong confidence, I doubt they'd find it a 'boosting' type of experience. Quite the opposite, in fact.
As mystiquek said, whatever floats your boat!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): I honestly don't care nor watch those things but don't think there's anything wrong with them either (the adult ones).
The children's ones are disgusting exploitation.
As for married women entering I don't see what difference a woman's marital status or anything like that has to do with entering. I also think every woman in it is competing for their own reasons and if confidence is one of those things then who cares? If it works and gives them confidence then surely that's a good thing.
There will be people who think married women shouldn't do things like that but they're also the people who think women should only live in the pre-determined way they think they should, whether that's a conservative who thinks married women should settle down and become housewives or feminists who think women should live according to their draconian right wing ethos of never doing anything that might make themselves aesthetically pleasing to men.
OP in my opinion if a person, in the case of your question a married person, is going to put themselves on display in a competition based on beauty then they have to have a tough skin and be prepared for plenty of negativity, even from the other contestants and people who love that kind of thing.
Having a severe lack of confidence being the sole reason a person wants to do something like this, is a huge mistake, because it makes it too important emotionally and means all the negativity will hit hard.
I don't feel sorry for anyone who puts themselves on display, they're adults choosing to open themselves up, if they're not prepared for the consequences they shouldn't do it.
It's the children of those fat, ugly psychos who make their kids do pageants I feel sorry for.
I've come across a few adults who did pageants and it's just a competition that takes time, effort and a lot of skill to win. No woman just wakes up in the morning and looks and moves that "great". It also takes a lot of courage to walk in front of 1000's of people on stage with nothing but a barely there bikini on to have your body judged.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): Ageing women trying to hold on to their youth is my take on these contests. I find them demeaning, but I have always held a feminist's view on these pageants. Plus, they are expensive with entry fees, ads, gowns which makes the pageant owners rich, but if that is how they want to fritter their money away, more power to these women.
Also, the pageants remind me of the tv show The Swan with all those women getting plastic surgery to look "youthful." Gag, cough, cough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): i think they are dumb, but as far as your actual question goes, no i dont think they make moms look desperate for attention. i think that every girl in the pageant has a motivation behind why they are there and if someone wants to look down on kids or being a mom as a motivation, then they are obviously not the type to cherish parenthood. im a mom and ive thought about modeling. not because i need a booster, but because i have always liked the idea. kids just kinda postponed it. being a mom doesnt mean you cant set out to achieve dreams!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): Here is a good article on Mrs. America and this one contestants experience and quite a humorous adventure and point of view on the pageant.
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/human_guinea_pig/2004/07/there_she_is_mrs_america_.html
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (19 June 2014):
 I hold zero interest in pageants of ANY kind. They have just never held my interest. My sister in law was actually Miss Carolina at one time (she's 65 now) so my husband's family held quite a fascination for them, but I don't. If a woman wants to compete in them, more power to her. I wouldn't want the stress and after listening to my mother in law and sister in law talk about what went on behind the scenes...NO WAY would I want to be involved, but hey..whatever floats your boat!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 June 2014):
 As long as world peace is the focus I'm all for pageants of any kind.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 June 2014):
 I don't believe in pageants AT all, specially not the kid ones, I think they are soulless & shallow.
HOWEVER, I think pageants where the participants are willing and old enough to understand what it's all about, it's whatever floats your boat. If someone feels it can HELP them make a better life, make them feel better about themselves, the world... then go for it.
Would I feel sorry for a married lady to try out? I don't think so. Why should I? That would be like saying SOME women should feel sorry for me, because my passion is art and I'm not an artist, but still TRYING to create.. I don't want their pity. I'm sure they don't want mine.
An adult married lady wanting to do this (for whatever reason) is OK in my book. More power to them.
Would I watch it? No. I don't watch Miss America/World or other pageants. It hold absolutely 0 fascination or interest for me.
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