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What are the Tell-Tale signs of your girlfriend cheating on you?

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Question - (27 March 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2008)
A male United States age 26-29, *scalaya writes:

We've all seen those online-articles, magazine articles, about how to tell if you're dating a "playa" or if your man is cheating on you.

But I've never seen the inverse of that. How can you tell if your girl's cheating on you? Let's be honest, women are just as bad as men, and unfortunately, smarter. They don't get caught. So ladies, and gentlemen, what are the tell-tale signs of a cheating girlfriend?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008):

Hi there,

I agree! Guys and girls show a lot of the same signs. But guys do have to be more awake/alert/on the bit, or they could miss the signs. Girls can mask and hide just as good as some fellows can do. The most obvious sign a girl is cheating is, she is suddenly glowing and smiling a lot more than usual, but it's because she's not thinking about her current fellow. The new guy is her focus. With her current bf, she becomes distant and doesn't want to spend much time in his presence. If she's an affectionate type who no longer likes him kissing her her nor showing her love, she's snappy and picking arguments over nothing (as mentioned below)...there is a problem. Here is a link you can look at, for more signs.


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A male reader, Escalaya United States +, writes (28 March 2008):

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Escalaya agony auntNono, it's not that I suspect anyone. As of this moment I'm single, I'm just curious, 'cause I see all these articles about how to tell if a man is cheating, but never have I seen one on how to tell if a woman is cheating.

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (28 March 2008):

tux agony auntJmo gave some great advice. :) especially the being defensive, offensive and turning it against you bit. My ef-gf did that to me, after I had solid proof. But then again, I did read her myspace mail. *gasp* but then there are a lot of other things.. like a open box of condoms in her purse with one missing. Her having guy friends that she could not introduce you to for some odd reason.

But just listen to your gut, if you feel that you cannot trust her, just leave. You don't even have to tell her that you think she is cheating. As for signs, loosing interest in you is one thing. Her story to where she has been and who she has been with changes a lot is another good sign. - watch for addition names popping up later. "Oh yeah, Helen was there too I forgot about that." "Oh Bob, He's Helen's friend." I'm also cautious when the following comes up for no reason. "Oh don't worry...He's just a friend." "He's like my brother.I could never do anything with him." Of course, a girl could mean it, but well I have my doubts that the majority do.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (27 March 2008):

natasia agony auntShe stops wanting to have sex with you.

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A female reader, Jmo United States +, writes (27 March 2008):

Jmo agony auntFirst of all, follow your gut. Unless you're an incredibly insecure, irrational, or jealous guy, you're probably already on to something. Does she seem defensive or nervous when you casually ask her what she did today or yesterday or whatever? When she goes out without you, is she extremely vague and unwilling to give you any details? Does she seem anxious when you ask to use her phone or even get too close to it? Do details in casual conversation come up inconsistent and when you call her on them she backtracks and comes up with excuses? Does she come up with excuses for where some of her new stuff came from or say " 'so and so' gave me this, it's no big deal" and then change the subject? I could write this list forever being a pretty deceptive person myself, but seriously, trust your gut. If you have a suspicion, you're probably right.

One piece of advice if you're currently in this situation: Don't accuse her of cheating until you have pretty good proof or can fake proof or have a long list of circumstantial evidence. Trust me. Coming from a bad girl, we get defensive then offensive and then we'll try and turn it around on you.

I hope I've helped


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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

Pretty much the same as a guy really, I guess :] she doesn't spend as much time with you. She starts suddenly taking up a suspicious new hobby, or finds an unusual excuse as to why she can't see you. Also, you might find your sex life goes down the drain a bit, and she doesn't reply to your texts.

But like 'spanna' says, if you start looking for them, you'll convince yourself you've found them! Like the time I convinced myself I was pregnant when I was a virin. Lol.

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