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writes:Hi all. For the past few months I believe I've been dealing with depression. I had a break up with a serious boyfriend who I was with for over 3 years and self esteem issues regarding that, there's been job and money issues going on with me as well as pretty serious family issues between my grandparents, parents and I. This has all been happening in just a short span of the past few months. This year has been hard on me so far. I know depression is normal and common but I don't know what to do to make myself feel better. Ive been feeling this way for quite some time and things only seem to be getting worse. Do you wonderful people on here have any tips or suggestions on how to get through things like this? (Besides going to a counselor, I don't really want to go that route) Does anyone consistently deal with depression and can sort of point me in the right direction? Thanks to all for the suggestions, I appreciate it and God bless!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 April 2015):
Exercise, hike, etc. Getting outdoors is great for depression, as is physical activity.
I think a doctor is a pretty bad idea unless you're desperate. They'll just give you drugs with side effects (my wife took one that killed her sex drive and made having an orgasm impossible).
Go see a naturopath, there are some very effective natural remedies. My wife is taking magnesium and a few ayurvedic supplements and they're as effective as anything a doctor gave her but without harmful side effects.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 April 2015):
 I'd suggest you DO not go try herbal remedies all willy nilly. There are MANY good useful homeopathic medicines and supplements out there, but I'd strongly advice that you talk to your doctor before "experimenting".
St. John’s wort causes many drug interactions, the guidelines suggest it might not be an appropriate choice for many people.
For instance:
Birth control pills (Contraceptive drugs)
Some birth control pills contain estrogen. The body breaks down the estrogen in birth control pills to get rid of it. St. John's wort might increase the breakdown of estrogen. Taking St. John's wort along with birth control pills might decrease the effectiveness of birth control pills. If you take birth control pills along with St. John's wort, use an additional form of birth control such as a condom.
I mention it's interactions with birth-control pills, but that is just a FRACTION of what kind of medicines it can interfere with in a negative way.
Maybe look into a homeopathic or holistic doctor if you want to go a more "natural" way than counseling and meds.
A supplement might help you short term, but like a band aid it won't "fix" the ROOT of your problem. WHY are you depressed. And while many people think therapy is hogwash and silly sometimes it can be very useful, if for nothing else but to learn to "self diagnose" WHERE and WHAT the root of it all is.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (20 April 2015):
 Seeing a doctor is the best way to treat your depression. Alternatively, you could try various supplements that could perhaps help you with your depression. Here is a partial list of supplements that elevate mood which you can try one at a time to determine if you like them: acetyl l-carnitine, rhodiola, glutamine, Citrulline, inositol, at John Wort. For evenings to get a calming effect try: magnesium glycinate, theanine, GABA, glycine.
All of these have various and extensive studies behind them that they attenuate depressive feelings. None are a solution but they do help in various nootropic ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2015): For me the best thing really is just to do things I enjoy, the kind of all consuming things I get so involved in I don't think about anything else.
I would for now, try to stay away from things that make you unhappy and just be a little bit selfish, if you want to sit and do knitting for hours because that makes you feel better then do it!
I have an outdoorsy hobby which I love and that is basically the only thing that gets me out of bed somedays.I would be lost without it.
You may find that other people will loose patience and sympathy for you as depression goes on and there is no quick fix. I think people get frustrated that they can't really help you.
Some People may disagree but personally I try not to discuss it too much with family and friends for that reason. Plus when I am in 'the pits of despair' there is not really anything anyone can say to get me out of it. It's just something I have to work through myself.
A had a breakdown a few years ago years ago and have been having problems with anxiety and depression ever since. I did take medication but it didn't really help me and I got a bit addicted to it, so I stopped. I never had counselling or CBT but I know people who have and they say it helped, so maybe it's worth a try/ don't write it off?
Just keep doing the things you love and good luck :)
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reader, XxSophie84xX  +, writes (20 April 2015):
The first time is you have admitted you have a depression which is an extremely difficult thing to do, so well done.
The next step is to go to your doctors, they may be able to offer you something other than counselling such as team groups where you talk with other people. The main thing with depression is to not bottle up your feelings, you need to find that one person you can tell everything too.
Another thing is try eat healthy, fruit is a booster and can help your mental health so much more. Going the gym is something else as excerise helps relieve stress and usually when you're working out so hard you dont think about your problems. Its easier said than done as with me it took a while for me to actually go do it but now enjoy it.
Have you any hobbies? I do baking and that takes my mind off it, try be creative and do something different.
The side thing is depression wont just go away. I have been dealing with it for almost a year now and at times you will have low points but there will be times when you forget and you can get through it, you just need support and to realise that you are not alone.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 April 2015):
Depression is not something you can just wait out or wish away. And while eating right and exercising can help you in minor ways, I would suggest you go see your doctor and get a real diagnosis.
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