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writes:Hello I have recently begun my first sexual relationship and I just need some help? I've had sex with my boyfriend 4 times now and each time he's struggled to get it in? It's not being too dry that's an issue but maybe I'm too wet? I don't know but it takes a few attempts and I'm worried that it's something to do with my body? Are we doing something wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2016): i had same problem with bfrndi got told my a mate its vaginitis.your vagina just tighens up even if wet.and and more you may worie .ads to it ..lie bsck ket boyfrnf use fingers just think of of sexy thoughts my love .when he is hard still think just sexy thoughts open ur vagina lios eith ur fifingers either side.and gradualy let him ease in .not thrust too fast to slip out...worked for me oh yess deep joy .good luck love
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reader, RevMick +, writes (7 February 2016):
 I see this kind of thing all the time. Sex is meant to be fun, don't over think it. He could be semi erect when he's attempting it.
It's definitely not your body, or that he isn't attracted to you, or any of the stuff flooding your mind.
You could be getting stressed out and constricting the muscles. Maybe get more foreplay in. Let him rub or excite you with his hands and mouth etc before attempting penetration.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2016): Hi I'm the op, I just want to clear some things up: he is my age lol, also he has more sexual experience than me so I expected him to know what he's doing. He knows which hole were aiming for its just that as he pushes it in it slips out? Like his penis doesn't stay inside me? Thanks all
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2016): He is nervous and excited at the same time but you are willing and able and capable.Providing he is well acquainted with your anatomy and has run his fingers enough times through your delicate parts then he knows where to try to penetrate.If he gets over anxious he could aim to penetrate your anus by mistake but you just tell him "oi , not there...get it right or you get nothing hunny chops.He will be glad of a little extra guidance from you in this respect and directing him by grabbing his manhood and putting its tip where you expect him to go will help.After that just snuggle and move gently .Practice makes perfect they say..no one ever got a goal on basketball first try did they , so dont expect violins and multiple orgasms until you get a little bit more used to what you are doing.I hope your boyfriend is appropriately aged and not some tragic old geezer preying on the young and beautiful. Early sexual experience amongst two like minded young folk can be very memorable for both parties and is not a test of mutual expertise.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (6 February 2016):
 Could be that he no not quite hard enough.Being too wet is not going to stop him being able to penetrate. Could be something like inexperience and a bit of nerves. I wouldn't be thinking either of you are doing anything wrong, rather just need to relax and enjoy learning from each other and together as a couple. Hope that puts your mind at ease a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2016): it could be a lot of things, maybe you are still pretty tight and you accidently tense up some as he tries to enter. it could be that he is not all the way hard and its sort of slips off to the side as he goes in. one thing that might help is the angle, if you are on the bottom maybe put up hello or a folded blanket underneath your hips or just try maybe with him sort of on his knees or legs stretched out, different positions. you could be on top, and guide him in, separating your inner lips to give him more room. I'm not quite sure what you specifically mean by he has a hard time getting in
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