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writes: It seems that every relationship I have been in except for one, always ends up with them totally ignoring me. Now the relationship never ends off in a bad way, it just ends up with me being ignored. No discussion that it's over, nothing! Now, I try to keep in touch and stay friends, but it's hard to do that when they won't even answer my calls. I don't think that I am overpowering. I don't know what I do wrong, and I am usually the one that ends up getting hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): you dont have to think like that.
maybe mr right is not yet coming or GOd may have a better plan for you thats why you think that every relationship that you have just leave you and your hurt.
Its not yet your time for the right to have a man to come over to you and love you.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 November 2005):
 What's that? I'm sorry I wasn't paying attention....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): First, a question for you - why would you want to stay friends with such horrid people??? Ignoring someone is incredibly mean (and immature) so these relationships ARE ending in a bad way, and perhaps accepting this is the first step for you.
It sounds like you need to take back control in these situations - that will be difficult to perhaps understand if you have never had control before. But trust me, you needn't accept this behaviour. It sounds like you are exhibiting 'chasing' behaviour, which simply never works - the more you follow them, the less they desire or respect you. When people treat you like this, you have to re-evaluate them. Draw the line and decide that they are horrid people that you don't want anymore - walk away your head held high.
Although it feels to you that you have no choices here and simply endure this treatment the men in your life mete out to you, you DO have a choice. sorry this is long and perhaps sounds like a lecture... I am just so angry with these men for treating you like this - I know how it feels, I have been there, and there is another way. You are stronger than you think, please believe me.
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