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writes:I need help and advice because lately my relationship hasnt been so good. Today my boyfriend and i got into a nasty fight. Yes we've had these alot but this time things were said that really shouldnt have been said. I really need help because things arent seeming to get better at all today because of just the tension between us. I don't understand why he can't just get over our little disagreement and just drop it. But its not really the fight that is bothering me, it's what was said. He called me a bunch of horrible names and said a bunch of horrible things to me and i can't take it because it has made my self esteem just go lower and lower all the time. and i keep thinking about it and it just brings me to tears. Nasty things were said to me and i just sat there and took it all and cried but for some reason crying didn't help the pain of what was going on in my head while he was calling me names. Yesterday we were hanging out with a cousin who started complaining how she was fat even tho she isn't. SHe wears a size 12 in kids. skinniest thing ever. Well she started talking about herself in negative ways and my boyfriend brought that up and was like "how do u think i feel when i cant even touch my girlfriend on her waiste because it's so fat" and then he started saying that i'm fat because my i don't do anyhting about my wieght and then he was telling me that i'm so fat that my thighs rub and he kept telling me to loose wieght. It's been about 8 hours since he has said these things to me and he hasn't even apologized he said he doesn't even feel bad for saying these things to me. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): You should tell him that what he said really hurt your feelings. Ask for an apology and if he doesn't give it, I would break up with him. If he is going to criticize you like that then he does not love you unconditionally. If your weight bothers you, then loose a little weight, but don't be pressured to do it by someone else. You should love yourself for who you are, no matter what size.
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