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writes: Hello there,I have been in my current relationship for about 5 months after a 2 year break up with the same person. He was the dumper in our previous relationship.Since we got back together, something just doesn' feel right, he is not as affectionate as he was. He doesn't express himself as he used to. I feel I am the one who is giving more to this relationship. He is pushing off engagement because he's busy at work (he is abroad). And lately, he has been acting really weird, very jealous saying that he is very tired of this relationship.Any thoughts of how to straighten things down?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey there,
Thanks a lot for your insightful repsonses, I really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Hey I think you need to sit down and have a real good long chat about things. If that doesnt work and he still doesnt change then its maybe time to call it a day on your relationship. You deserve better. x
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Something you must consider hon. He doesn't seem the same because he is 2 years older. The relationship of the past is not necessarly that of the present. He broke up with you for a reason. Consider the reason.
Evaluate your relationship with him then and now. If you feel that he isn't giving you what you need in the present relationship then it might be time for you to move on. Especially if he is stalling at going forward in the relationship.
It could possibly be that two years ago he wasn't really ready for a long term relationsip. This time around he might be ready for a long term but not a lifetime realationship.
You have two choices wait it out or move on. The choice is ultimately yours. I would advise however getting your feelings in check and taking time to figure out what might be stopping him from making a real committment to a lifetime together.
If you two love one another then you should try to relax and not rush the lifetime committment thing. Due to things going on in his life just now he might be feeling pressured and it could run him off.
He could be having committment issues with the fact that he is abroad and doesn't know how a committment of this type will work out because of this. It is also possible that he just as unsatisfied in the relationship as you are. Quiet possibly he has found someone else abroad that he wishes to spend time with. He could just be feeling depressed trying to deal with the problems of a long distant relationship. What ever his concern he feels something so let him have a bit of space. Let him get his feelings straightened out. Then go from there.
Anything worth having is worth waiting for!
God bless you and Godspeed.
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