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writes: I ahve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's 32 and I'm 39. We had some problems last year, but had booked a holiday to Thailand which we wnet on and things got back on track. He started talking about buying a house together and arranging things for the year ahead. We're about to move because our landlord is selling our flat, and 2 weeks before the move is due to happen (we ahve paid deposits etc)he tells me he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me and I should move 100 miles back to my parents. He aslo tells me that he wants to be with someone else, that he's talked to her about being with her but not gone further than that, however this happened before our holiday so the poor girl knows that we went away and that we spent Xmas etc with our families(pictures on FB) but they're now talking about dating each other when BF and I move. I say this because I can't move so far away and we coudln't afford to lose our money so we have decided that we will live together as flatmates for a little while (6 months)until we find someone to take one of the rooms. I guess I just want some perspective. He's worried this other woman will not 'see' him if we're living together, even as friends, and I'm torn between being angry with them for doing this behind my back, and feeling bad in case it doesn't work out for them because of me.
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reader, Pinkfish +, writes (11 March 2011):
Pinkfish is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Anon. I think you're right and I'm putting plans in place for just that eventuality. Didn't really have a question, just wanted opinions on what people thought was going on, and if anyone else had gone through the same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): not sure what your question is? I think you should give him permission to see her so they both aren't chomping at the bit and he doesn't resent you for holding him back. Looks like the girl had enough self respect not to see him until he's officially single and that is why he is panicking and attempting to get rid of you. If you don't move out I'd be prepared for him leaving and sticking you with all the rent so he can be with her.
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