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writes:Some background information: So my ex and I dated for 2 years and we've known each other for about 5. We go to the same college, we still hang out, we still talk all the time... But the last couple months or two we were dating (before we both left for college), we fought about STUPID/petty crap and I broke up with her in hopes that giving us a break would eventually make things better.We had broken up once before (she broke up with ME for the same exact reasons, we got back together a couple months later b/c we agreed it was stupid). Well, after I broke up with her and we started school, I felt horrible for breaking up with her and tried talking to her about it. Breaking up with her was the biggest mistake of my life; she's beautiful, she almost always knew how to cheer me up, we had a lot in common, everything seemed perfect. She told me she still had strong feelings for me, and I'm still in love with her, but she told me she doesn't want us to date because she thinks we clashed too much and she didn't want either of us getting hurt again.Idk what I should do. We've both tried moving on, and I can't seem to get away from thinking about her. Even when I DO end up going on a date or liking another girl, I eventually find myself falling for my ex again. I've never been clingy, obsessive, or controlling towards my ex... and I still treat her with respect and give her the benefit of the doubt. Should I wait it out and try to get her to take me back? I'm not sure if I can move on from her....I know that was a lot of crap to read, and it may not have all made sense, but I did my best to explain the situation.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2010):
 What is this stupid pettiness that you both broke up for the exact same reason? Well apparently, it wasn't fixed in the first place..so that's why it's completely ended. I would first figure out how you can both fix what's wrong in this relationship (but both have to be willing). Ask for her back one last time, pointing out the ongoing issue and if you both work at it then the problem will be solved and you can go on to being happy in this relationship. However, she may not agree that breaking up twice is enough. Then it would be completely over, but hey you tried your best. Take one last stab at it..if she turns you down again, then third time is not a charm.
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