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writes:After recently dating this guy, when we broke up one of the reasons he stated was that he felt "I was too comfortable with him" This kindof threw me through a loop b/c I thought it was a breath of fresh air that I was comfortable with him to be myself. I didn't act rudely or obnoxiously around him but he felt I didn't dress to impress him b/c I wear jeans more than dresses or skirts. Granted, we had a long distance relationship and only saw each other about once a month if that, but he didn't take me anywhere to really dress up and really this made me mad b/c I don't at all dress sloppy. Maybe this was just a big indication that we were not compatible especially if he couldn't accept me for who I am, but I would still like some opinions on this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 July 2010):
I think he's a very closed minded guy who is too focused on appearance, looks and anything else that is shallow. If you're a girl who wears jeans, then you carry on wearing jeans. So what if someone else doesn't like it, especially a man who has a one track view of women. He sounds too closed minded, and too vain to be honest. If a guy can't accept you for who you are, then he's not the guy for you. I suspect you'll find that this guy fancied one women before, and has put her on a pedestal and expects other women to conform to what she did. Don't take that. If you want to wear jeans, wear jeans. If you want to wear a dress, wear a dress. But this guy was far too closed minded and seemed to be a bit controlling to be honest. I think you're better off without him.
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