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writes:Hello to everyone who stumbles upon this question and for those who take the time to read and answer this, thank you.I am currently 14 years old, living in the UK. I've been going out with this boy who is the same age as me and we've been together for one year and 3 months. The thing is my Dad's job involves being transferred every 3 to 6 years, we've been living in the UK for nearly 3 years now, and if you haven't already guessed we'll transfer soon...Our relationship is in a mature level, I know plenty of kids our age who think they know what love is, because they've had sex. I know this because we just get along well, we're there for each other, trust each other, and we've seen each other at our worst and best. We don't experiment with each other's bodies, he doesn't distract me from my schoolwork, this all blossomed from a friendship. It's a great feeling love is...Things became more serious when we promised each other we'd get married in the future, start a family and everything and I have NEVER wanted something so much in my life. I know to some it sounds stupid.So we plan to have an LDR in the future, finish our studies first of course then meet again.Most adults claim this isn't even love, it's infatuation. A phase. Puppy love.But I do love him, it's a strong feeling and anything's possible right?I know I have my doubts, but we're both willing to put everything into this and if we're lucky, we'll make it through. Reply to this Question
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reader, jazzythetank  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 OKay....im also 14 and love can be found from friendship personally ... i am still looking for a boyfriend but if you feel it and your soul is shaking you from the core and telling you that you love him so much you don't want to walk into the other room because you won't see him anymore... i would go for the love theory and dis whoever thinks differently ... but if you love him that doesn't mean you have to have sex with him because as you said you think it' a feeling when it's the feeling the way he look at you, the way he comforts you, kisses you touches you and so on..my lit could go on foever so if your feelings are strong enough go for it ...make your dreams of a happy marriage and life with this man... a reality..peace and love,jazzythetank
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Time will be the teller here. But for now, don't doubt your love and don't listen to those suckers trying to undermine it. Your love is completely sincere, genuine, honest - TRUE. Sure you're 14, and it may not be forever-love, but it certainly is love, in one shape or another.
It sounds like you and this fella have your priorities in order. I'm glad that you found a great guy and I'm sure he knows how lucky he is to have you. I think it's fantastic that you're remembering to take charge of your schoolwork and not to have sex just cuz everyone else is. Why bother? It just complicates things, and besides... you have your whole life for sex.
Try for that long distance relationship. Write letters back and forth (so. romantic.) and stay in touch by phone. You may grow apart as your lives continue, but that doesn't makes your relationship now any less wonderful. Enjoy it, girlfriend! Maybe you will end up getting married. Maybe you'll find different paths, take a break and find each other later in life. Or, maybe you'll just find happiness elsewhere. But why worry about the end result of your relationship? Just work on building it now, making memories and savoring your time together.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, AskMelissa +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Very good question! I agree with the other person who responded to your question. You do have to remember that you both are still young and might want to go off to someone new later on, but still keep in touch. And if anything were to go wrong still keep eachother in your hearts.
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reader, nolanative89 +, writes (22 March 2009):
Love at this age is possible. There are many different types of love and who's to say that an age level makes a difference? There are young relationships that function better than older ones. All I can say is follow your heart but remember that people change.. I am definitely not the person I was at 14. It will take hard work and perseverance but true love is hard to find and if you feel like you've found it pursue it as you may!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): i sound sensible and any thing is possible.you both need to remember that you are fourteen and lots more growing up to do.you may be separated for a few years but ye could stay in touch during those years. have other relationships up until you are both, say 20.enjoy your teenage years and put effort into careers.then when you both achieve your goals ye could be together for the remaining up to 70 years.if ye were meant to be ,ye will be .
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