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We're getting married in two weeks, but since his children from a previous relationship and his sister have come, he has basically ignored my son and me.

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Question - (25 July 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2008)
A female United States age 51-59, *nleadedbrunette writes:

I am supposed to get married in two weeks. My fiance has been living with my son and I for about two months. He has two children from a previous marriage that I do not know very well because they do not visit here very often. They are visiting now and he, his two children and his sister are all staying at his house. We have not spent very much time together. It really bothers me and hurts me that we are not all together as one family. He has basically ignored my son and I. What should I do?

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A female reader, unleadedbrunette United States +, writes (25 July 2008):

unleadedbrunette is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for the replies. I have talked to my fiance about it some, but I feel evil saying something when he is visiting with his children that don't get to come to where he lives very much. They have been here for two weeks now and each time we have seen them, it has been because someone in my family has invited them to come over to swim and eat or just to eat. I was really hoping that the adults in his family would make the effort to include us in the things that they have been doing, especially my son so that he could be around the other children. My son is an only child and was looking forward to having a step brother and sister and now he doesn't act like he wants to see them so much.

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A female reader, catlou18 United Kingdom +, writes (25 July 2008):

I am in a simulau situation. I would tell him face to face that you are not happy that he is ignoring you and your son. In my situation i have chosen to seperete myself and my son from his other two children which makes life much easyier for us. I would put your foot down and tell him this cannot contiune or it will cause problems in your married life.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008):

If his 2 children and sister have not visit him for a long time, they might have a lot of things to catch up.

But yes, he can bring you and your son together because you all now are a family.

Maybe you can raise your concern to him that you would not mind going out with him when he is with his children and sister. After all, you all are 1 family.

Best of luck

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