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writes:Confused. I recently bumped into an an ex girlfriend a couple of times as i was on business in her town with whom i had a bit of a rollercoaster relationship a year or so ago (through work). Due to problems we both cut off cantact with each other back then and both too stuborn to contact even though it hurt us both.She asked me round and we ended up seeing each other 5 times in 10 days staying over at each others, going out, sleeping together etc. We seemed incredibly close and happy, professing love etc. However on the last meet she confessed she was in a relationship which was having problems, which threw me completely. I questioned her and she got all defensive/moody she said it was all happening too fast (she instigated all meets) and we kind of fell out.I saw her again a week later and it was very strained with no physical contact/affection and a bit sad considering those days together, she was even quite off with me (think its cos of the relationship thing coming out in the open). I thought things were going to work out happily ever after as well :(Anyhow we havent spoken since or been in contact apart from one text i sent just asking of she was ok after a week of no contact. I got no reply.What do you think has happened?I do still think she loves me/cares for me a lot and has pushed me away as she knows she needs space to sort her life out. She shouldnt have done it this way though.I will not contact her now as i feel i would look pathetic chasing her if she is still in a relationship and if she really does love me she will decide what she wants/miss me and be back minus her relationship if she cares that much.This has confused the hell out of me and probably her but can someone give me some insight?Sad thing is we will now probably never see each other again if neither of us picks up the phone and i dont feel its my place to do that. Shame really for we are both massivley attracted to each other and were getting on so well before this problematic relationship business came out.Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Hmm. Well first off let me say that what she did with you, while in a relationship, was wrong, because now you are totally mixed up and have no clue what to do. All I can really say is call her and tell her you want to meet up and talk, that way you can get your feelings out in the open face-to-face, if you really don't want to lose her then you have to stop being stuborn and do this, be the bigger person and get her back.
Good luck, hope everything turns out OK.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (5 July 2008):
Well there are 2 possibilities here.
1. She was using you for sex. Get over her and move on.
2. You are both stubborn and a bit useless. Ring her, tell her you want to be with her but you need her to be single and willing to commit. Tell her to give you a ring when she's ready.
Good Luck!! xx
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