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writes:I recently went back on the pill and am having light bleeding a lot of the time. I didn't have this the first time I was on it. The gyno said it could last for three months, but that having sex while bleeding was fine. My boyfriend doesn't feel comfortable having sex if I am bleeding at all and I feel hurt, rejected and frustrated by it. I am on the pill for both of us and it is hard because it causes some moodiness and weight gain, but I felt it was worth it. The funny thing is that I did this so we could feel comfortable having sex. He makes me feel like it is not worth it if it is a little messy or worse yet, maybe he finds it gross or something. We have been so close for so long that I feel really hurt that he would find me less appealing because of this. How can I make this better before it causes some real damage?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 There are other ways to enjoy intimacy while you're bleeding. Most men don't particularly enjoy having sex with a women when she's having her period. Alot of women don't enjoy it either. But you can always give him oral sex, and he can always stimulate your clit with a small vibrating toy so you can both have orgasm without the mess. Just be sure to wear a tampon and it shouldn't be a problem. Then in three months, when your cycle has regulated, things can go back to normal and you'll be protected from unwanted pregnancies. Good luck.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (20 June 2007):
 Don't go off the pill to keep your boyfriend happy....I don't know he seems to have a hangup about the female menstrual cyle, tell him it is not going to hurt you if you have sex, and usually when you are turned on enough for sex, the bleeding temporarily stops, just put a towel down or something to protect his sheets...
I would ask your doctor to give you another type of pill, it seems to me if you are having break through bleeding, this pill is to light for you....but I am not a doctor....sometimes you have to try a new pill....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): I don't think he loves you less. I think that it's just something that isn't sanitary regardless. Just b/c the Dr. said it was cool doen't mean he should want to do it. i ask you this if he was bleeding from his penis and still wanted to have sex with you, would you? Really think about the uncomfortable aspect.
I say waiting 3months won't kill you to wait 3 months...hey if you love him it will be well worth the wait
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