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writes:I don't understand my date.My date last night keep sending me messages 3 times in a row after the date. From morning, lunch and just now. I am not attracted to her the way she is into me. I can easily tell she is too much attracted to me. I want her to stop contacting me without hurting her feelings. She is a workmate btw. The date is just an accident date. The only reason why I dated her because the girl I really like was with them. It was a group date. It was too late for me to ask the girl I am really attracted to. now this girl will ruin my chance getting close to her. I don't know what to do. can someone tell me what to do? I need girl's opinion. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2013): so, you used one personto get closer to another. That's actually is not very nice. just tell her know you don't like that way, what else can you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2013): The best way to deal with this is to be a good friend to her.
You don't need to avoid her. I do think she likes you.
I mean why would she text you 3 consecutive times in a day?
Simple she likes you.
How to tell her that you don't see her as more than friends without hurting her feelings?
Simple. Try telling her, that you really trust her and that you have a crush on someone. and ask her for advise. she will get it, and maybe she can help you with the girl you really like.
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (30 August 2013):
 Hi
I'm sorry mate, you are gonna have to bit the bullet and face the music on this one:
Hi [girl]
I am so sorry. I think I gave you the wrong impression. I actually thought we were going out as friends? I hope this means we can still be civil to each other...
That is going to be embarassing. But it will also show character and manliness (which might make her like you more, but if you are firm, gentle and hobest she will probably leave you alone)
As a girl, I have had experiences where I actually do not like the guy, but he is showing interest and I think "hey, what the hell, he is a nice guy" and I find thinngs to like about him and I talk myself into liking him... ca which may be whay is happening with Miss Texr-alot. Do not assume she is just all that into you... she may think you need encouragement.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 August 2013):
 1. don't use a girl to get closer to another girl, that is a no-no.
2. don't go on a date if you know ahead of time that you are NOT interested in the girl. Tell her you wouldn't mind going as friends, but not a date-date.
3. BE honest.
4. Let her down gently and DO NOT use her again to get closer to the other girl.
IF she think you two went on a DATE-DATE (even of it was a group of people) you NEED to set her straight. And while THAT might ruin your chance with the other girl right now, maybe give it a little time and see. You kind of shot yourself in the foot here, can't blame that on your "date".
Though I have to say, dating your co-workers is not a smart thing.
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