A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:My bf of nearly five yrs and I have had a great month off from school and it is time to return. I have been worrying about going back because my bf feels so pressurised at school. He started having anxiety and emotional upset about a week before he had to go back. He had to go back a week before I did and we met up for the weekend at a "b and b." It was wonderful...sweet, intense. We love each other deeply, and I try to be understanding, but I know after he is back at school for a few days he will start acting moody and even nasty. He is so different than who he is when we are together. I don't know what to think. I try to be supportive, but how can he be so loving and sweet and then within three days back at school talk and act so mean. Do you think it's just the pressure and that he'd rather not be at this school, or is there something going on? I am a very trusting person, so I never think it could be someone else. We have come so far since our first semester in college when he treated me so badly that I broke it off and then I spent second semester in Europe. We worked hard on the problem, but maybe I'm not seeing clearly. What is your take on all of this? Reply to this Question |
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reader, earsopen +, writes (20 January 2008):
 It sounds as thought he is taking his frustration out on you. School is a very stressful time but not enough for him to be acting so extreme. There may be a deeper issue for his behavior. Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him about the situation. Explain to him that it is hurting you for him to treat you this way. Maybe talking to him about the bigger issue may help him get his frustration out in a positive way.
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