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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He is from England but we have spent about 10 months total of that time in the same place, usually living together. He is in the process of getting a visa to live with me for a year on a secluded place with only a handful of other people. He has been away for 3 months In the last month and a half he has been getting more distant and was strange when I finally saw him for a week. He admitted recently that he is worried about living together, about fighting and would like his own place to escape to. He is 3 years younger than I am too. I understand this, but it hurts and I am afraid that there is more to it, that he is not as in love with me as he once was. That is how he is acting. I have told him I would give him a week of space,no contact, but I am scared. Reply to this Question
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Hello! I know everyone's tired of hearing it, and SO AM I, but it's natural for couples to grow apart like this...Trust me, I'm tired of hearing this as much as any girl, but the sooner you accept the new distance, the sooner the new changes can take place. Maybe you two weren't meant to be, true, but maybe he needs some time to think about these drastic decisions he's making in his life. He's young, and most young men prefer to prowl for women in this prime state, while most women want a steady man to care for her. Remember: He may not be ready for a mature relationship like you are. Give him time. And then confront him. Enjoy life! -Carrie
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