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We want to kiss, but we've never done it before! I'm 12 and he's 14. Does that matter?

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Question - (7 January 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2007)
A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 weeks now.And we have said that we wanted to kiss each other.It will be my first kiss and his.We both said we were going to kiss the next day but I guess we both got nervous and didn't.He then told me he doesn't know how or how long.And i don't know either.I then tol him I wasn't ready and we should wait till the right time,well I want to kiss him but I'm too nervous and I don't know how.And there is an age difference I'm 12 and he is 14 and

we are madly in love,but is that too much of an age difference? -shyness

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A female reader, heartxbrokenxgurl United States +, writes (13 January 2007):

heartxbrokenxgurl agony auntgurl i can help here im 13 n theres a guy thats 15 i like 2yrs difference its ok i just wouldnt go over 3yrs older so ur fine not a big difference only 2yrs id say go ahead n kiss him u learn form ur mistakes if u r a bad kisser he shuldnt break up with u cuz its also kind of his fault cuz he never kissed anyone either so u both dont rele kno but soon u guys will dont wrry n dont be shy around the one u love so go up to him n say im ready to kiss u n then u guys can kiss n heck u might find out u were naturally a good kisser like i did but my 1st kiss was in kg n im 13 so i was like 5 when i had my 1st kiss with my b.f so dont be shy around him just go ahead it wouldnt hurt to try

good luck

?jenna date master n heartxbrokenxgurl

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007):

Hiya..x

I wouldnt worry about it and dont rush yourself! When the time is right you will both know how and it will come so naturally! Just relax be yourself and enjoy the moment. your first kiss certainly is the best!.

so dont worry and just wait!

x

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A female reader, ..*TrueHelp*.. +, writes (7 January 2007):

..*TrueHelp*.. agony aunthello bbe,

if your not ready dont push your self into it youll only get more nervous. but whe it is the right time it will suddnly happen and youll forget everything. your saying you dnt no how to kiss him well al i would say is go with the flow n it wil all come to you. the age diffrence donst matter aslong as you like each other

Good Luck hunni

Jodie

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (7 January 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntAhhh, your question made me smile. I'm so happy for you!! First kisses are so special and memorable. Even if they're not the best kiss in the universe, they are the most special and you'll remember it always.

12 and 14 isn't too big of an age difference. Not at all!! If you two really want to kiss each other, you're a lucky girl. You get to kiss a boy who really, really likes you.

How to kiss, well, you'll figure that out as you go alone. A good way to start is give him a hug, and then when you pull back, don't pull back very far, so that your faces are pretty close. Keep your arms wrapped around him. If you tilt your head just a little, it'll feel good and natural.

No need to plan out a time and date. Your first kiss will happen when it happens. It will be even more special if it's spontaneous. Be patient, and it'll happen soon.

Update us and tell us how it went when it happens!! Ahhh, first kisses!!

Enjoy, sweetie. So happy for you!

xxIndia

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007):

I think you have already answered your question are we to far apart in are age. if you both are that madly in love then you know if it is right. About kissing.....

it might be hard for you and your crush to pick an exact day and time to kiss. Try to follow your heart. if you both love each other and want to kiss it will happen when you are both ready. For now try just hugging. who knows maybe you have more courage then you think.

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A female reader, Amethyst United States +, writes (7 January 2007):

Amethyst agony auntOH.. I just re-read.. I completely forgot to answer your "how" question. Just incase you meant that literally...

you push out/pucker your lips a bit, lean in, and press your lips to his. Other kisses will wait until you're older. .

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A male reader, idoneitagain Australia +, writes (7 January 2007):

Dear Shyness,

It is good to ask advice on these things if you are not sure, so thanks for writing. Kissing is an expression of love and is very natural, so if you feel like you love this boy and he loves you, it is nice to kiss and show the other person you love them, as long as it feels right. Don't ever kiss anyone if you don't feel comfortable, or quite right. Other than that, you can't go wrong!!

Don't worry about how it will be, or how long, or any of the details, just give it a go. If you do it and you feel nervous and don't get it quite right, don't worry, just try it again. You will get the hang of it.

I wouldn't worry about your age difference, I don't think if you are 12 and he is 14 that he is too old. What is more important is that you feel comfortable, that you trust that he really likes you too, and that you think he is a good boy. If you don't feel comfortable, or don't feel ready, then don't rush it. So just do what feels right.

Good luck and if you choose to give it a go, just have fun!!

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A female reader, Amethyst United States +, writes (7 January 2007):

Amethyst agony auntAwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww you're sooooooo cute. :3

You remind me of me on my first (real) kiss! Hun, age difference doesn't matter... and you sound rather mature for your age, that's a good thing.

Anyway, let me tell you from someone who KNOWS how it is to be too nervous and shy... just tell yourself over and over again, "There's no reason to be so shy, you already know he wants a kiss, and you want a kiss, so why be shy?" If you stay so nervous or jumpy, you're going to mess it up, it's a fact. It doesn't matter how long the kiss is, it can be a two second kiss, or a minute long kiss, depends on who pulls away first. But a suggestion, for the first kiss shock to subside, I recommend you go with around a two or three second kiss. Then you two can giggling and everything and kiss again, longer than before. From then on, it shouldn't be as hard. Just make sure he knows you're about to make the move, you don't want him to be in mid sentence when you press your lips together! (Teeth knocking hurts...)

Good luck hun!

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