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writes:I just started dating this guy I've liked for over a year and he's very sexy and wants to go further than I feel comfortable. Well it's not that Im uncomfortable, I'm more self consious. Half because I'm afraid he won't like the way i look or feel and another half is that i don't feel sexy enough. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 So true,Rescuer.
Last week I was at my mum's house, distractly leafing through old family pictures. My eye fell on a young pretty brunette, I said : Oh how cute, who is she ?
Believe it or not, it was me at 18. I was adorable !
If I think of all the time I spent obsessing about my looks and my clothes and my weight then. I always felt there was something not quite right, something that I was supposed to fix or improve. I felt huge- and I weighted 118 pounds. Moral ?
- we are the harshest,less compassionate judges of ourselves. We focus on one little detail that's not perfect, a slightly crooked nose or something, and do not understand that other people sees the general picture and would not even notice your imperfections if you were not drawing their attention to them.
- we do not understand that being sexy and desirable has got nothing to do with weight or looks, just with personal magnetism ,carisma, and self confidence. i know women who are a size 18 and they exude a head turning sensuality.
- we do not accept that people who love us see us through the eyes of their heart. You might be the Hunchback of Notredame, yr bf still can't wait to ...well,you know.
- we do not realize that if we are beautiful inside we are beautiful outside. Be happy. Be kind. Be loving- Be proud of yourself....and you'll have to fend them off with a stick, I promise you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 April 2010):
Women all seem to be very worried about their body image when it comes to sex. The secret that all this magazines with skinny celebs and models won't tell you is that men actually don't care. He loves you already, and he knows you already. He's already kissed you, hugged you so he knows what your body feels like. He wants you as you are. So don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): you shouldn't feel uncomfortable with yourself he wants to have sex with you so thats a good sign that he's attracted to you and has no problem with the way that you look... just enjoy it and forget about you... let him love you he obviously wants to =]
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 April 2010):
 He already knows how you look and feel (except in the nude, perhaps), and he's apparently happy with it. So don't worry about rather minor stuff like this.
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