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We used to be much closer, calling each other all the time, now I call her 10 times she answers 1 time, what has happened, am I only there for the times she is lonely, please help?

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Question - (15 July 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2008)
A male Australia age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been with her for a year now. We were doing so great. We talked to each other a lot. Everytime, I called her, she is there waiting. It rang the most 2 times, she pick up already.

Recently, she always missed my call and rarely text me. Usually, she will text to say good morning. Of course, she is not always the one initiate. I do text her too, just to say good night or good morning.

Let's say I called her 10 times, she will only pick up 1 time. When I asked, she said she is away, wanted to talk me or just about to call me.

I believed her. But, I can't take it anymore. If she really wanted to talk to me, why she never call back, never be the one calling me first?

I think the buzz has gone away. When I raised my concern about this, she went defensive and stressed it is not about other guy.

I felt like she only want to talk to me when she is lonely. Maybe you can say that I am now a spare bf.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008):

Thanks for the advice

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A male reader, Ometeotl United States +, writes (15 July 2008):

Ometeotl agony auntWell if you two see each other and call each other then it would make sense that you wouldn't need to call her as much or text her as much. Don't suffocate her with calls or make her feel surrounded at all times. People need their space just give her a little one call a day is good if you plan to see each other that day if not then two calls a day. If she fails to meet you half way then consult her and if she can't give a good reason why you should stick by her side then it is time to give her and yourself some good time apart without phone calls, text messaging or meeting and then see how things settle. Just don't set yourself up to get hurt if you can avoid it, no point in have a failed love, because failed love isn't true love. Best of wishes

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