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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: Hello I think I'm not the first one to have this issue, but i couldn't calm down from all I've seen on the Internet. Last night, my boyfriend and I tried having sex for the first time. It was my first time, well I don't know if this one even counts as a first time but it wasn't new to him. I wasn't even nervous, I'd trust him even my life, as he is a calm and caring person. There was a lot of foreplay, I was really wet too. The problem is, that it wouldn't fit in. He incerted up to 3 fingers before that, as far as I could bare but it still wouldn't fit in! I got really frustrated after the fifth try and even though he said that it was fine, that we'll try again etc. , I really am mad at myself... It wasn't the image I had for our first time. What could I do? Is there anything wrong with me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 April 2013):
 no one is happy with the first time image and dream vs the reality.
keep trying
keep being relaxed
keep being lubed and remember half the fun is trying
laughter in the bedroom is perfectly ok... if you laugh at yourself or you laugh with each other it's GREAT.
being mad at yourself is useless.... it's not like you did this on purpose.
there is nothing wrong with you
keep trying
try different positions
you are on birth control right?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 April 2013):
 IDON'T be "mad" at yourself!!!! It's 'way too soon to conclude that "there's something wrong with (you) me...."
One's first intimate/sexual experience is likely to be very stressful (as you've described).... and one's body can react quite drastically to it.....
(continue to) discuss this with your boyfriend.... don't feel that you and he "must" do "something" to change what happened during the time that you've described.... and be good partners/friends and - yes - lovers... and let nature take its course if/when you and he try to have intercourse in the future.....
Good luck....
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