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writes:I've been talking to this guy for a while now. We act like a total couple. We've hugged, kissed, made out, everything except sex. When he's away he tells me how much he misses me and how he wished he was with me instead of away. He calls me his baby or his love all the time. He listens to everything I say and holds me when i'm upset. We both really like each other but I don't know why he hasn't made us official. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Maybe he thinks it IS official, that you are bf and gf, that it is obvious. Don't loose energy on thinking too much of what he might be thinking - just go with a smile and ask him 'Then, we are official?'.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 He obviously likes you but not enough to give you the committment you're after. If he's your age as well he's probably not interested in a serious girlfriend. He's most likely just enjoying himself and not taking himself off the market in case something 'better' comes up.
He's got it good though, you give him company and affection. How good do you have it? Not so good judging by your post. You want more, and that's perfectly fine.
I doubt that he'll give you more. He's getting what he wants without giving anything in return. Who's to say he's not seeing someone else, pursuing other girls and so on?
You need to be clear as to what you want. He's not a mind reader. As long as you continue the way you are he's just going to assume you're cool with the situation.
Too many girls assume things will change, they wait patiently, they hope the guy will read their mind. Sadly, this never happens.
I think that you deserve more. If I can give you any advice, I'd say that you shouldn't be doing any of these things with a guy who isn't your boyfriend.
Before you know it, he'll find a real girlfriend and you'll be left to wonder what happened.
Be clear as to what you want. See how he reacts. If he doesn't want to give you the committment but is just happy with the way things are, you're bound to get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Tell him this. Why leave it up to him? You know, 80% of guys would rather women make the first move. And in a situation like this it doesn't seem like it would be weird or awkward for you to say something. Tell him what's in your heart and he'll fall for you like he already has! I wish you every happiness! :)
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 He wants to eat his cake and have it. Don't let him do that to you. Its really hard to ask a guy if you guys are an item. Keep away from him for a little bit don't sound too enthusiastic on the phone, stop making out with him. If he notices your different tell him its because you're not too sure about yourself with him and where things are headed. Of he's serious he'll commit if not it will be clear to you.
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