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GinaAshley
writes:Hello...I am fourteen years old and I am dating a guy who is nineteen turning twenty a month before I turn fifteen...I met him over the internet and first he said he was sixteen. Then he told me he was eighteen and then he said he was seventeen turning eighteen and now he says he is nineteen turning twenty!!! We have been dating for about three monthes now and I just figured out that I truly love him...He has always been very sexual with me...We haven't done anything yet because I'm not sure if thats all he wants...I mean, sometimes he will be all sexual with me and others he acts normal. I don't know what to think. I'm just so confused and kind of hurt that he lied to me...But I just love him so much and he says he loves me but I don't know if he just wants to get into my pants or whatever...HELP ME!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Hello lovely,i think you need to reall think carefully about what you are getting yourself into. Have you considered that perhaps he is lying to you about being 20 as well? Perhaps he is older than that as well. Who knows?! I think that you must first understand that you are 14 years old, and as such shouldn't be thinking that you are in love with this man, as yu haven't met him and you dont know who he is. For all you know sweetie he could be a married 45 year old man, who knows what to say to get you to feel this way. i hope you understand what i'm trying to say. Much love xxx
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reader, jmac1344  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 16...18...then 20?
40 Sounds more accurate. If you ask me the guy is definatley a perv, why else would he lie so much about his age?
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reader, GinaAshley +, writes (31 March 2007):
GinaAshley is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the help you guys...I'm reading over what I said and I forgot to mention that we haven't done anything and usually later on after he gets done talking about sex he says he would never make me do anything I don't want to do...He does talk about other things most of the time, its just at times I get uncomfortable when he starts to talk about sex...My gut is telling me I should meet him but be very cautious...I appreciate your advice though. But I think thats what I might do is just meet him but be very careful, I'm bringing a bunch of friends and my mom will be there...Again, thank you for all the advice and feel free to respond to this as soon as you can...I can use all the advice and talks I can get. (by the way I am leaving for Washington D.C. tonight and won't be back until April 5th so I may take a while to respond again...
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reader, Miss C  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 This guy is using you by the sounds of it. Don't let his words "i love you" fool you. He wants to firstly act like the emotional guy by gaining your trust, saying he loves you etc. Men know that some young women are naive and will believe that this guy can't be using them for sex becasue they have told them they love them and have never asked for sex. This is his plan I'm afraid. Once he has gained your trust he will use this to his advantge by then trying to meet you and thinking it's the time to try and have sex with you. The fact that he has already lied about his age proves he is not a man you want to get involved with. Stay well away from him, whatever you do, DON'T meet him. and find someone your own age, someone you can trust. It is important that you find;
1) Someone you can trust
2) Someone who is honest with you from the very beginning
3) Someone who cares more about the emotional side of a relationship than the sexual side.
4) Someone you haven't met over the internet! After all, they could be anyone.
Good luck! Regards, from Miss C.
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reader, baby blue fairy +, writes (31 March 2007):
heya well i just want to say to you to get out right now ! it may seem harsh and you may feel its love but im so sowwi to say i doubt he feels the same way as you do. if i were you id go out with my mates shopping,bowling or just hanging ot seeing in any cuties (your age) catch your eye but dont come on as desperate just play it cool and forget this guy he lied to you before i woudnt want to hang around to listen to whatelse he has to say and your still so young live life first the settle it down have fun when your a teenager but know your limits and dont ever feel you have to do more for someone else, if they dont like you for who you are then they are certainly notthe one! just go out there strong and ready to start agen fresh and ready! the 20 year old is history forget him! best of luck (tel me how it goes if yoo can) xxx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (31 March 2007):
 Honey you are 14!! This guy is abusing your good nature! Move on now! Before its too late. He told you he was 16 to start so that you would give him a chance. Hes then moved the goal post as you might have smelt a rat. Then he moved it again! Hes no intention of staying with you. As soon as he gets in your knickers as you put it, thats it!
Hes already lied about his age, what else has he lied about... I dont believe for one second he loves you, he just thinks thats what you want to hear so he gets what he wants!
Stay away hun, hes not for you. Hes praying on young girls on the internet. This is very seedy and you need to look after afterself and get away from him. For all you know hes older than 20! the fact he lied to begin, tells me hes alot older than you realise anyway and hes seeing what he can get away with. How many others has he said the same thing to? The internet is sometimes a very very nasty place. Men praying on young girls, and that is what he is doing.
Please call this a day and get rid. Your far too young to have to deal with this type of thing. Its not fair on you, hes just trying to get what he wants and doesnt care about you, stay away, hes bad news.
Take care x x
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reader, mitch +, writes (31 March 2007):
Back off big time... Hes shown he cant be trusted since he lied about his age - not just once, but several times... It seems very dangerous, especially since you're scared he could only be there for sex - its best to stay way away and not risk getting hurt (it could really mess you up if went wrong).
your so young, just forget this guy, and someone your own age will come along i'm sure. you've got so much time on your side, why rush into something your not sure about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): What do you mean when you say that he has been sexual with you when you also say that you haven't done anything yet? Anyway you shouldn't be getting sexual with each other, it's against the law and because you are younger than 16 and he's older he could end up in serious trouble with the police. As for loving him how could you love someone who's lied many times about his age plus probably is just using you for sex? Dump him and find someone your own age. I know it might be hard but move on.
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reader, thor +, writes (31 March 2007):
 first you are under age and second he lied to you. can you realy fall for a guy like this that lies to you. there is a lot of talk about sex and no relationship. it is possible that he is trying to get into your pants and you are silly if you let him. once a liar always a liar
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