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writes:Well this is a bit of a weird question, but ive been with my girlfriend for about a month now, we have both had sex with previous partners, and every time we get into bed, we have a real good time joking around, tickeling each other and stuff like that, and then we will get serious and start having dry sex, but for some reason we never actually have sex, even though we both want to, its weird, its not that we arnt sexually attracted to each other, but it just doesnt happen, we end up going back to tickeling and messing around, i mean im fine with not having sex cos im happy just to have her with me, i wanna know why it is tho? i cant figure out any reasons why we dont just do it, i know i want to, i know she wants to, only thing i can think of is that we have too much fun messing around and cant stay serious long enough for it to happen, and is that a good thing?
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reader, hdell  +, writes (5 September 2008):
As far as I'm concerned, couples can have a lot of fun playing around and mastrbating togther and cuddling and caressing without actual intercourse. Such activity can be as satisfying, without the consequences or the commitmen.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Listen honey, this could be down to the fact that you aren't that long together yet...I'm glad that you enjoy her company without the sex but you need to think as to whether this will create a problem for both of you down the line! We all have our needs!
Best thing to do it just play it by ear, there's no forcefield surrounding you so there isn't anything stopping you as such...let things happen as they happen, when you are both ready to have sex together you will.
There's nothing wrong with having a bit of fun and being playful especially in the first month...why hurry into having sex if you are both having fun before yiz even get to that level in the relationship...building slowly usually results in a stronger relationship! Don't rush! Just enjoy!
Hope this helps! Best of luck!
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