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We haven't spoken in months, but he has kept me very much a part of his life. What does he want?

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Question - (31 May 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2011)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My ex and I were together for 3 years and 8 months. Most of the time our relationship seemed nearly perfect except for the fact that we lived an hour away from each other. We both have children. My daughter lives with me and he likes to spend alot of time with his son. about 2 yers into our relationship, I sold my home and moved my daughter and I into his home. Things were okay, but I missed where I lived (the beach) and decided to move back after about 9 months. We origanally met in my town and there is nothing more than my boyfriend wanted than to live at the beach, but he did not want to miss out on soending time with his son.

We began to see each other less although he still continued to tell me that he loved me he wanted to spend his life with me. I became frustrated with the relationship and tryed to end it, only to end up caving in a day later. A month went by and we still continued somewhat normally until one day he was vising me and decided that I was not happy and decided to set me free. I was fine with that up until now. It has been nearly three months since we broke up and he has not tryed to contact me. Many of my belongings are still at his home including furniture, clothing, etc. He is still on my cell phone plan and has sent me money to pay for it, but allthough I have authorised him to remove his number from my plan...he has not done anything about this. I went to his house a couple weeks ago, and pictures of my daughter and I are still everywhere. Here is my question...does he still love me and maybe want to get back together or is he just lazy? I know he could not possibly be seeing anyone, especially since my stuff was still very visible in his home. Why has he not initiated contact other than sending me a check for the phone. Whenever we had a disagreemnet, he did have a bad habit of simply shutting down, but we never fought.

Is he waiting for me to initate contact?....I am just so confused and he is the love of my life.

My life has improved since we broke up. I have gotten back to my healthy weight, I have a new job and am making more money, having fun with my girlfriends, enjoying my daughter, and am less stressed not having to deal with his problems and issues. But I miss the fun we used to have and they amazing connection we shared. We were so great together. Any advise would be very much appreciated.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (1 June 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwhy not ask him these questions.

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