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writes: This isn’t a problem as such but I just want to know what you guys think and whether this happens in your relationships. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a month and I have just stayed over his house for the weekend. This is the first time we have slept in the same bed. We haven’t had sex yet and we didn’t kiss (cos I haven’t been well). We cuddled and he touched me a little over clothes which was really nice.However, on both nights i awoke in the early hours because he was moving about and his breathing seemed to get heavier. I am pretty certain he was masturbating right beside me. I had my back to him on both occasions you see and I didn’t want to startle him by asking him what he was doing so I just lay there!!! So, do you think it is safe to assume he was masturbating? The thing is I didn’t sense that he was awake because as soon as he stopped the movement, his breathing seemsed to go straight back to that of when he was asleep. So if he was masturbating, is it possible he could have been doing it when he was asleep?!? Also if he was masturbating, where did he come because the sheets were dry as far as I know and I didn’t sense any movement of him reaching orgasm. I haven’t come across this before with exboyfriends so I didn’t know what to do. Our relationship isn’t sexual yet so I didn’t want to join in. Do you think I should mention it to him or just leave it? See the thing if he was awake, I think he would be very embarrassed (more so than if he was asleep).Does this signify deeper problems in the relationship? See the frustrating thing for me is that although he doesn’t know this, he constantly talks about sex and it was actually making me start to doubt his motives for me but to his credit we still have not had sex. We kiss and cuddle and touch over clothes abit. He knows that I want to take it slow but his messages are so conflicting. He agreed that he wants to take it slow too but he always talks about sex. The weird thing is if I initiate the kissing, he clams up and I don’t know why. If he initiates it’s fine, but on both occasions where I have tried to kiss him he has done this. It is starting to feel like he is rejecting me. Yet he is fine if I initiate cuddles. I can’t decide if all this is him respecting my feelings to go slow or he is messing me about or trying to control me. He is fine if he initiates it all. Is this a control thing and if so how to combat it?Since I started this post, I have just googled it and apparently it is very common to masturbate in your sleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): very good topic and i myself would like to know why and all that. because i have a similar situation. i wish men would give their thoughts on this .. any men out there ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): was the bed shaking if it was he was masturbating,he probably wiped it on the wall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): He was probably just asleep and dreaming, and may have been having a wet dream. I doubt there are problems as he was probably dreaming about you!
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