We have onlý been married for 9 months and I feel like we already need to seek help!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Married my husband after 2 1/2 yrs of dating (also dated in Highschool for 1 1/2 yrs). He and I are opposites in every way shape and form. It's starting to get hard to deal with because we have VERY LITTLE in common. I ask him to grocery shop with me, he says no. I ask him to an amusement park, he says no. I am an affectionate person, he is not. He even only kisses me if we are having sex, and that only occurs about every 2 weeks. The lack of interests we share and lack of physical contact are driving me crazy. I have talked to him about it and then nothing changes. He just says he is just not an affectionate guy. I have started getting resentful. I want a baby too and he keeps making excuses why we shouldn't...yet. I love him but wonder if we will actually make it. I feel lonely and unattractive and unhappy way too much:( To give him some credit he will do things on occasion like rent a movie he does not want to see cause he knows I do. He did take me and my son out last night. But its always on his terms and never just when I ask him. Not sure how to deal with this. We have onlý been married for 9 months and I feel like we already need to seek help!:(

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