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We have decided to lose our virginity to each other....but I'm scared and uncomfortable with my body

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Question - (22 July 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey...

Well ive been dating this guy for around 3 almost 4 years and like latley hes been like beenig wayyyy to much of a sweetheart :) and i love it! :] We are both 18 and agree that we are ready to loose are virginitys to each other... It will soon be his birthday and yeahhhh its probably going to happen then. But like i dont know im kinda scared... Like i get told by everyone that im wayy skinny but im pretty uncomfortable with my body.... My boyfriend tells me im perfect and he loves me and loves my body but idk...?

Another thing is we are going to began to move in with each other we got our first place and everything and like he wants his best friend to move in with us and im fine with that i love all his friends! But his friend used to like me like and i swear i thought he was gonna rape me one day he didnt but yahh.... Id rather have one of his other friends with us. Do you think i should leave that in the past or ask him to have another one of his friends staying with us..

Ohhh and last question.... I feel really stupid asking this but when i do loose my virginity will it hurt... Will i bleed..?

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A female reader, Starlights United Kingdom +, writes (25 July 2009):

Starlights agony auntwhether or not it hurts on your first time varies between women to women.

for some it hurts alot for others painless.

some bleed some dont.

i wouldnt worry so much about it.

my first time i bled alittle and it didnt hurt, which is kind of strange match!

if u dont want that friend to stay and he tried to rape u before then tell ur bf and not have him stay. u dont want to take the risk again do u?

good luck

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A female reader, TheAgonyAunt United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2009):

TheAgonyAunt agony auntDont worry, I get called way too skinny aswell.. but my boyfriend still loves my body. If he didnt love you for you, why would he be with you?

I think you should put that incident in the past and move on to the future.

Also I didnt bleed when I had sex, but I think my hymen may have broken beforehand.

But it varies from person to person.

Hope all goes well.

x

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A female reader, littlest.devil Canada +, writes (22 July 2009):

littlest.devil agony auntanswer to question #1

everyone is uncomfortable with some aspects of their body no matter how amazing their body is. and for the first ur always worried about the little things. but trust me all he cares about is u. he obviously loves u and just knowing that should make you light up :) dont let the little things phase u in time u will learn to accept ur body for what it is, ur beautiful no matter what!!

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if you are uncomfortable with that friend you definetly have to bring it up with your bf. even if he won't rape u the fact that u r that scared about him is not good. kindly discuss it with ur bf, he does care about u and ur feelings r very important to him. let him know how uncomfortable his friend makes u feel. and ask if there r any other ppl that could move in.

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for some ppl it hurts a bit and some it doesn't. it's different for everyone. and there's not always blood. i know it's probably scary to u, and this is awkward to talk about but ask ur bf to go slowly at first because ur scared it will hurt. u love him, so don't worry about it, ur not going to die, hes the love of ur life, be excited!

good luck with everything.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

if he says he loves your body then he does!

men wont lie about that,they loves boobs etc...if he didnt like it im sure he wouldnt tell you in a rude manner,but im sure he is happy with you.

you may or may not bleed.it depends if you have a hymen or not.

and it may or may not hurt.that depends if you are relaxed enough or if you previously masturbated etc.or just lucky.

on my first time,no blood or pain just pleasure.but i masturbated beforehand and had no hymen.but enen first time masturbation didnt hurt.it felt great.

im sure everyone will pretty much say the same thing,that is we are all different,and you wont know what will happen until it happens x

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