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writes: Hi, my boyfriend and i have been living together over 1.5 yrs now. We get on fine, though there is little sex which im not entirely happy about. But ive learned to live with it as ive now lost my sex drive, so it doesnt seem to matter(tried all sorts of things, nothing works). Im really not sure of the problem really. Im quite a positive person normally and try hard to remain that way but regarding our relationship I feel quite negative a lot of the time though i dont show it outwardly. Ive been a happy single for a very long time and have adjusted to being with my boyfriend i think quite well(1st serious relationship in a long time). All is peaceful in the home. But i cant understand why i feel negative. I like this guy very much but feel I should feel something more. Ive never had the feeling of "falling in love" with anyone. I sometimes wonder if I ever will or if there really is such a thing. I used to be bothered by things that my boyfriend would do but now I dont really care eg. his wellbeing, he drank almost everynite of the week, he kept in contact with an exgirlfriend by text only, saying their just friends, tried to improve our sexlife but have given up as its onesided. I just wonder why as we live together nicely, we get on, why i feel negativety inside and sometimes feel I should move on, which i might regret and it would be so hard as i dont really know why im moving on. Hmmmm any ideas anyone
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 You sound like you are suffering from depression. Much of what you describe are the 'classic' symptoms.
I suggest you visit your doctor and tell them how you feel, he/she will be able to give you an initial idea of whether you are depressed, and what your various options are for improving things. Sometimes just a change in lifestyle can be enough, such as getting a new hobby, living more healthily or doing regular exercise. Other times anti-depressants are the best solution (which you often only have to take for a short period).
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