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writes:Hi, I'm new to this website so sorry if i make any mistakes. There is this guy I know that is the most confusing... one day my friends and i were playing a game where we had to tell everyone who we liked (on facebook messenger). i liked him but i didn't know if he liked me. I ask him questions about his crush until i had ruled out everyone except for me and another girl. i thought he liked me because he acted obviously different around me and everyone knew that the other girl liked someone else. my friends thought so too.i lied and said i didn't like him, but I regreted it the next day. The next day he acted completely different, and suggestd that he didn't like me. i got frustrated and we got in a huge argument. He is popular so everyone blamed it on me. For the rest of the year we kept figting because he still hated me because of the old argument and refused to be friends. he said some things to me that coud be considered bullying but i don't want to repeat it.everything was mostly forgoten by the end of the year, so i asked him to homecoming because i was stupid enough to still like him. he said no (of course) but later he started texting me to ask me to go with him. it was obvious it was a joke, but it was playing with someone who likes you when you don't like them back. i was mad and blocked him on facebook.Now its much later and i've moved on. should i unblock him???
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't know that anyone would actually answer! thank you for answering!
its strange.. i was actually just about to unblock him but then i remembered that i posted this. You all had great advice :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 May 2016):
 No, what for ?
You say you have moved on, so you don't even hope for anything romantic anymore.
And as for being " friends " , - he has not acted as a true, good friend. He is a " friend " you can easily do without.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (30 May 2016):
 You're really young and you're getting involved in drama you don't need. He hasn't changed, so unblocking him wouldn't be a good idea. You were smart enough to block him the first time, don't reverse it because he'll still play with you, regardless of what he may say at first.At your age, these are all crushes (instead of love), so it's never worth the risk of getting hurt to give a crush another chance - especially with no signs of change because you'll get hurt again and it wouldn't have amounted to anything anyway.You've done the right thing, so far; he may have liked you until you said you didn't like him, but it brought out nastiness that was already there, so you dodged a bullet. You also blocked him, which was good, even though you did it because you were mad, rather than out of rational common sense ;) You're going about this the right way (blocking him), so I think you'd be better off to leave it that way.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (30 May 2016):
Keep him blocked.
He KNOWS full well that you like him and he doesn't like you back. He has (according to your post) treated you like crap SEVERAL times over a longer period of time - that is NOT going to stop. My guess is he is the kind who likes to put others down to make himself look good. That, dear OP is not a great guy. That's an immature turd.
Also, having a crush on someone doesn't mean the other person owe you anything. You are wasting your time on a guy WHO IS NOT into you.
IF he was he would have APOLOGIZED for having been a bully or whatnot towards you. He haven't, because he doesn't regret it.
While HE might be popular, he ISN'T worthy of your emotions. It's good that you have moved on. KEEPING negative people out of your life and drama to a minimum is ALWAYS a good thing.
And lastly, don't feel bad for not telling him back in the day that you liked him, he would STILL have treated you like crap, because THAT IS WHO HE IS.
Facebook should be a fun and safe place to keep in touch with friends, family, co-workers and acquaintances... he is neither. No need to un-block him.
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