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writes:we had a fight and i slapped my bf. i dont really mean it,it just happens bcoz i was in so much rage,i told him im sorry but he won't listen.what will i do to make him believe tat i'am really sorry for what i did? please help.i'm desperate.. Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Hey there Miserable,I think that perhaps writing something to him from your heart would be the best move. Let him know how you feel and how much you value him. Don't buy him any gifts, because that would probably be insulting (at least that's how I would feel. "So buying me this present makes assaulting me okay??" See what I mean?) But maybe if he sees that you took the time to actually pour out your emotions in a letter, he might be more willing to accept your apology and move on.But in any case - however you decide to handle this - getting back to normal is going to take some time. Perhaps, if you feel the need, you could figure out how to control your anger. I know that you don't want to hurt him again, not only for him but also for you - it's not healthy for either one of you. This may have been the first time it's happened, but you want to make sure it's the last. Have you had anything like this happen before? Have you ever thought about going to counseling? I know that might sound a bit rash, but I thought I'd suggest it anyway. It might also show your guy that you really are serious about never doing this again.Hopefully things will work out for the both of you - just be understanding, patient, and most of all keep showing your guy that you care for him. People always say that actions speak louder than words...I guess because it's true.Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I am a strong beleiver that woman shouldn't raise there hands to men the same as men shouldn't raise there hands to women, but what has been done has been done and you can't change that my advice to you would be, make it up to him tell him it will never happen again tell him you are truly sorry and make him a nice meal. but remember you can't just expect him to be ok straight away you broke his trust and that takes time to build back up.
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reader, Having Problems???  +, writes (3 April 2007):
theres not much you can rely do but let him hav a bit of breathin space 4 a while then confront him and tell him that your really sorry and you wish it never happened and if he doesnt want to believe you then my guess is that he doesnt want a proper relationships. if he cant get over the small petty things then its not a proper relationship.
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