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writes:I am with a guy and we're both 21 right now. We got together around october and it was a little rocky at first because he was "afraid" to get back into a relationship because he didn't want to get hurt again. Neither one of us has broken up a relationship either so we're both kind of the loyal type. But the thing is... now that all the "rocky" stuff is gone... which im glad it is because I hated having those talks where i was asking if we were in a relationship or not (because we were having sex) and him feeling "preassured" about it... but... now he has gotten over that fear. because we both know how well we click... or clicked... kindo f... we hit it off instantly when we met and stuff so thats why we got together and now hes into the relationship thing and hes happy being in a relationship and i know he enjoys it... but now... I think ive become soooo uninterested in it! i dont know why?! I wouldnt want to be with any other guy and I dont want to be alone either... I dont want to loose him... and no im not afraid of hurting him if i felt a break-up was the best thing but i WANT it to work because i do feel a great compatibility with him its just that lately im so bored! When we want to go out i cant think of a thing to do that sounds fun... of course we're kind of cheap too so we're limited to begin with and then he annoys me so much now! He jokes around soooo much but after a while it just isnt funny because he's saying a lot of negative things like... "oh stupid "my name"" or i dont know... he stresses a lot and worrys about dumb things... but that didnt bother me this much before... but i feel bored... and i want to be happy again with him... but how!? i have talked to him about this btw... but he doesnt know what to do either... infact it just worrys him...
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (20 February 2008):
Welcome to relationship crisis.It's normal to feel that way and usually is a result of over-familiarity of your partner.In other words the chemistry you once felt is gone.The sad truth is that in some instances it does come back and in some instances it doesn't and it ain't worth it if you don't feel it anymore and still sticking around.Don't think spending too much time will help,it'll only make things worse.No matter how compatible you may be when the love is gone,IT's GONE.I used to sleep with my ex even though our relationship had been nose diving for months.She still misses me because i was da sweetest guy she had ever known but that ain't enough,da chemistry of love is essential.Hope you reignite it and spend some time apart if you now find him boring.Hang out with your girlfriends a bit more and even family.Maybe by the time you see each other,you'll have fresh ideas.
Good Luck.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Dealing with rocky times has made the beginning of your relationship intense and you got hooked on the drama. Now you are free to enjoy your time together, it's comparatively boring! It's all natural... yes, even the bits you're annoyed by! It happens in every relationship, but people just weigh the importance of the difects in their partner and either get used to them or complain and see where it takes you.
As for having fun together on a low budget, there's lots to do:
pic-nicks in the local park;
get a bus or train to the nearest beach, lake, country side town, for a day trip;
take up sports together, ie- swimming, football, tennis, frisby,etc.
Include other friends in your activities, too! When at home, alternate watching movies with playing board games. Twister is great fun and gets you physical...
The people we love are supposed to join us in going through life, not have sole responsability for our entertainment!
God bless and good luck!
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