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writes:I had a fight last night with a friend of mine and I'd just like some input as to who you think is more at fault.I'm not really close with this guy, I know him through friends but he lives in the same house as me. I was hanging out in a friends room and he was there too. We were smoking hookah (if you don't know what it is basically it's a water pipe for tobacco that uses coals to heat it). This guy is always a huge jerk to me. Every time he's near me he's on my case. Most of the time it's ok but he was giving me a particularly hard time and then started making lewd comments about my gf. I got mad so i flicked an ember that was probably the size of a pencil eraser in his direction which caused sparks to fly and there wasn't enough for any of it to actually do anything.He then gets up and tries to burn me with a half lit coal that's on the hookah. I manage to get hold of the tongs he's using and the coal falls on my hand, which I now have a dime sized burn on from it. He then proceeds to hit me in the face and knock me over in the chair I'm sitting in and only stopped because our friend stopped him.I admit that I shouldn't have flicked the ember at him but I feel that he severely over reacted.Any opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): You're both in the wrong. Yes, he overreacted to your minor instigation but you have to remember that any spark - no matter how small or how large is going to fuel that massive leaking gas tank sitting in the house you're sharing.
Advice: There are three of them.
A) Avoid him as much as possible. There is ALWAYS a way to avoid him no matter how small the place is.
B) Move to another place.
C) Confront him with your friend as a mediator and talk it out. Make compromises on both sides if need be.
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (28 February 2009):
 If you can't avoid him then sit him down and talk saying if hes got a problem with you to sort it now.
Explain to him that you haven't got a problem with him but you just find it hurtful what he says about your gf and his attitude towards you.
Hope this helps
Livia
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's really hard for me to avoid him however, b/c he lives in the same house as me and is friends with everyone in the house
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (28 February 2009):
Rise above him. Hes sounds inscure which is probs why he over reacted like that.He sounds jelious of you saying things about your gf and always being on your case so i would just avoid him.Do you really want to hang out with a person like that?Livia x
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 February 2009):
 Avoid him, you obviously wind each other up. Keep away from this guy otherwise you'll end up in a world of trouble.
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