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writes:In April last year I met a guy at a local sports club I go to and over the course of the last few months we've built up a friendship and now regularly see each other outside our sports club.We're both single and in our 30s and at the start of last year (before we met) both had split up with our partners from our long term relationships so we've both had some feelings to work through.I feel there's something there between us, I'm pretty sure of it, but it doesn't seem to be happening. After all would a single man and woman go on a cinema date on a Saturday night if there wasn't? It's like an unspoken feeling and we both enjoy each other's company but nothing seems to be starting and I'm not sure what to do about it.Any advice aunties?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 January 2017):
 Why don't you tell him how you feel? At least then you will know where you stand?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. I've felt confused as I thought I was receiving mixed messages. I'm due to see the guy at the weekend but I think after that I'll back off as I just don't want to end up hurt if feelings are not reciprocated...
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 January 2017):
 I think he feels you two are friends and nothing more. I also think if he WANTED more he would have pursued it. He hasn't.
So my advice? If you are looking for a partner/BF - he isn't it, look elsewhere.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (9 January 2017):
 I agree with N91. If a guy is interested, you betcha he is asking you out and seeing how things go. He may be shy and eager in person as well.
After my dates, I usually know if a guy is interested or not. After not hearing about 4 days after a date, I usually know its done with and Im dating again casually. Just keep things light.
I hope you can just enjoy life as it is and just drop this guy. He is not interested sweetheart.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 January 2017):
 He mustn't be interested in you that way. He's clearly not shy as you've spent time together alone before. I think if he wanted to date you he would be more proactive about it.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 January 2017):
He mustn't be interested in you that way. He's clearly not shy as you've spent time together alone before. I think if he wanted to date you he would be more proactive about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2017): Maybe he does just see you as a friend .. guys are normal quite possessive when they see what they want as in they will be touchy . You know oo something on your jacket or something near your eye etc .. wanting you close that kinda thing . If after months of seeing him this isn't happening then maybe he doesn't see you in that light
May I ask how many times would you say, approximately met up ?
Maybe you need to just ask ?! Say something lightly like " oo my mum neighbour saw us last weekend and asked was I dating " and if he says what did you say .. reply .. well I didn't know how to reply giggle madly .. if he then says why not .. look at him shyly and say I don't know .. what do you think we are ??
See where that leads and let's us know .
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