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writes:There's this guy I talk to online. I met him 2 years ago. He's pretty cool. He's 20 now and I'm 17. I used to have a crush on him. We've gotten pretty close...on MSN, I mean. He has a girlfriend that he's met on there, and I know her as well. But now, especially since the past year, he's been acting like a jerk. You see, we met on an online band forum, for a particular band...and he praised my music tastes.Now, ever since that time...he's done nothing but criticize my new music tastes. Even criticizes the band of the forum we met on! He puts me down, calls me ignorant and says that I have horrible taste in music. He sees me listening to good bands like Coldplay and Maroon 5 and he calls them trash and yells at me...how could you EVER listen to that crap!? He tells me I know nothing about music and never will. He tries to get me into artists that I simply DON'T LIKE. And never will. He doesn't respect my tastes. He says that 90 percent of the artists I listen to are crap and more crap. He really hurts my feelings. And his sarcasm is even worse. He and his girlfriend listen to all these "good oldies" and he praises her and puts me down.I really want to shut him up and show him that my music taste IS unique and IS varied, unlike his..he won't listen to a single modern band. How can I do this without breaking off the friendship? Cause I honestly just had enough. No matter how many times I tell him that everyone has different taste in music, he just will NOT listen to me. And continues calling me bad names. Any ideas how to approach this?
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reader, EvieA + ♥, writes (6 November 2008):
 Say to him
If you judge people because of what they listen to then your pretty sad
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reader, Emivia  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 Why don't you just agree to disagree and tell him that there is more to life than trying to convince people that their tastes and opinions are wrong.
Simply talk about a different topic. He he brings it up telling him you don't want to talk about it and that you should agree to dissagree.
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reader, Peterk5699  + ♥, writes (24 August 2008):
 If someone's going to be like that to you just because he dislikes a certain few bands he's not worth it. To be honest it's a bit lame he should be so picky over music.
I'm not a fan of some of the things my girlfriend likes and vice versa but we joke about it in a light hearted manner and we accept each other for who we are.
He clearly can't accept the fact you like the odd modern band.
You should tell him how you feel and that if he doesn't stop then you're going to cut off contact. If he says he doesn't care, then do it. It's a bit spiteful but that's how this planet works.
Good luck!!
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