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writes:Hi,A couple of weeks ago, I asked a girl out who i've become friends with over the last few months who I met through a univeristy sports society. It all came out a bit too fast, but to my suprise she said we could give things ago and we kissed. However, the follwing morning she backed out, saying she didn't want to rush into anything, especially since she says she got hurt in a previous relationship, not too long ago (I never about this).She did say it would still be nice to spend more time together, hoping this would help her sort her feeling outs. I of course agreed, yet the problem is we are yet to have done so.As I mentioned we're both at uni, and she at the time had exams, and was of course busy with these. Yet I did get the impression she was just using this as an excuse... We have talked a couple of time since as friends, which is reassuring, but she still felt distant at times.We've both just gone home for the easter holidays, and she told me we should just see how things lie after these. The thing is I don't think I realised quite how much I liked her at the time when I asked her out.There is another complication which may be an issue - Next year, we are both is positions of 'power' within the said sports society. To me this isn't a problem either way, I feel I'll be able to act properly no matter what does/doesn't happen between us. I just hope shes the same in that respect, and not backing out of anything incase things get awkward next year.My main problem is I don't know how to act towards her now - I want to go after her as such, I really like her. However, I don't want to push her away as a friend, and I do want to give her time as shes asked for, without it seeming as if I've lost interest, both as a friend and possibly more. Nor do I want to seem too keen and perhaps even creepy by always asking to do things or texting her etc etc.I'm sorry for the length, but it helps sort it out in my head by typing it all down! any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 You see, in life understanding comes with experience.
Transition from friendship to love is a difficult process, and it doesn't occur frequently.
A girl you are writing about wants to remain friends with you whereas you want something more.
She got hurt in a previous relationship, and I guess that she doesn't wanna lose you as a friend.
In your post you only mention one kiss and for people who date a lot this relationship is still classified as friendship.
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