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We broke up to find ourselves, but I feel like Iost my best friend

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Question - (22 March 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2011)
A female Ireland age 30-35, *xxconfused writes:

I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and last week we had a small argument and he said he needs to break up. We talked about it and i agreed with him. We have been together since we were 18 and never really been single. I am quite controlling and dont like him going out all the time.. I have tried to be better but my insecurities get in the way.

He said that he still loves me but he has doubts about whether he will spend the rest of his life with me because he doesnt know any different. He then text me when he got home to see if i was ok and to say that he just need to stand on his own two feet.I have felt like this for a while but loved him so much so didnt say anything.

He then text me two days later asking to meet up because he missed talking to me. I said know because i didnt want to be so available and forgive him like i usually do.He than said well let me know if you change your mind.

Now im regretting this and i no i would b taking the easy way out if i went back but i just miss him so much. I know we need this time apart to find ourselves but i would like to talk to him. I dont know what to do. Should i give him his space and let him come back to me?

Will he ever come back because i said no to meeting up?

I feel like i have lost my best friend!

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A female reader, xxxconfused Ireland +, writes (24 March 2011):

xxxconfused is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for your answer I think you are right.

Now he is texting me sayin that he tinks he was wrong and that all he can think about is me and he cant imagine his life without me. I said i wouldnt get back with him if he wasnt 100% sure its what he wants and that i have to move on. He got very angry and said he's sorry he shouldnt have text me. I feel like i shouldnt just give in that quick to him after what he did but I'm scared he may not ask me again or want me back in a few weeks?

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A male reader, Bounties Australia +, writes (22 March 2011):

Bounties agony auntSounds like you both want to be together but there is feels of uncertainty simply because you have not had another partner.

If he is will, forget about all that and get back together, lets face it you don't have to jump off a cliff too know it will be a bad experience. So that same goes for the love for each other, you and he, don't need to run off and destroy what you have by doing casual dating with somebody else.

If he needs this, then his love for you is in doubt and you may need to move on.

But from what you have said, you where meant for each other.

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