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writes: my bf of 10mos broke up w/me more than a month ago,coz he was too busy, stressed and pressured as we got to a uni. He told me to wait for him, that he'll come back when he figures things out, and absolutely no girl was involved. At first I begged him to come back, but then I "let go and if he comes back he's yours".Then a wk ago he said he wanted to get back with me, he misses me and there was no girl when we were apart. but i said no ,not yet bcoz i think he lacked sincerity and commitment this time.i tested him to see if he was really that loyal to me. i got another num and texted him. at first i tried to be anonymous but he wouldnt respond much, kept asking who i was so i said i was G (his hot clasmate). Then I, saying I was G, asked him out on a date at the mall. (all these hapend in text). My ex replied "What are we gonna do at the mall? Why not go to my house or yours?". This made me sick and I wanted to know how far he'll go. So G, asked for his address and if they're gonna have sex, and my ex gave his real address and even said if she wants to then they'll have sex. Of course no girl would show up at his house since this was all made up by me, so G made some excuses at the last minute that she couldn't go. One night he wouldnt reply to my texts, I thought he was asleep already, instead he calls this fake girl I made up!It was then clear to me that my ex would have sex with this girl if given the chance, as he even gave his address and said some sexual details! All the while he was trying to come back, saying there's no girl texting him or he fancies. The real me asked him a lot of times if there was a girl texting him and all times he said no, I gave him a lot of chances to tell d truth but he didnt.Is this considered cheating and that I shouldnt get back w/him? He could argue that it's not because we aren't officially together yet, because I haven't acceptd yet. But all this happened when he told me there was no girl, it was ONLY ME he wants, and he would never sleep with other girls. Should I still get back w/him or not? Did all these prove anything about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): i told her i loved her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone, you all gave great advice. I haven't confronted him yet, but I'll do it soon to get this off my chest quick. I really love him, our relationship was perfect, until the last 2 months when we got to a uni. I hope I make the right decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): Judy Bolton and Wendy Bolton Floyd have just written a new book entitled "When did you know...he was not the one". The book will be released Feb.,2007. The book focus on women across the country and their defining moment when they realized the man they were with was not the one. Check out their web site www.whendidyouknow.net
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): listen hun! don't let i guy like that drag you down!move on! make him regret leaving you!go out clubin' with your mates and try meet mr.right!it will be hard to get over someone you cared about but it will be worth it in the end!i promise.
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reader, Donnah +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Some men like to fish...they catch and release. What you did was oh so so...you had a doubt and went with it. The discovery is more important.
You shouldn't even ask. His word is not honorable whether it was you or G that texted. It was a go with his real address and he lied to you. In fact, good thing it was you otherwise, you'd go back to him and believe him and then eventually be with him while G was to.
I would personally stop there. And look for a man with more integrity and honor. After this incident, you'll never be able to trust him.
G for Get rid of him. G for GO! Gone! Goodbye! Good riddens. LOL
Sorry things didn't work out. But think of it as a numbers game......you are closer to Mr. Right.
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Well no it's not classed as cheating being as you were broken up, but he was wanting you back and telling you that you was the only one, you never told him no you just said you felt he needed more time therefore you both were only really on a break making his actions cheating in my eyes but thats just my opinion.
If it was me I wouldn't get back with him and it would show to me that he really wasn't that bothered about really trying to sort himself out and sort us out if he was reacting to another girls interest and prepared to go through with doing something with her, I feel that if it was another girl and not you things would have happened and only came back to you if things didn't come of him and her.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): If he told u he would never do that u might want to b just friends becuz he was lying to u when u were talkign to him. You got to see the true colours of him when u weren't around and that tells u something. If I were u I would never get back together with him if he said that through a text message, but u do wat u feel is rite but be carful!!!!
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