New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244947 questions, 1084259 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

We broke up a year ago. Now I found out he is in a new relationship and it has killed me... Why!?

Tagged as: The ex-factor<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (13 January 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Well me and my ex went out for about 4 months. It's been a year since our breakup. In that year, I was totally over him...Until now. All of the sudden, I like him all over again. I found out that he's in a relationship and it kills me. It's been a long time and I still can't move on. Can someone please help me?!?!?

View related questions: broke up, move on, my ex

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx United Kingdom +, writes (13 January 2006):

xxxsoulsistaxxx agony auntI don't think this is about the way you feel about him at all, I think this is more about the way you feel about yourself. Are you happily attached at the moment? If not, I think you have your answer. You're not in another relationship yet and you don't want him to be. You're maybe just a bit jealous, not still in love with him.

I know this may sound harsh but it isn't meant to. We all feel insecure sometimes and we just need to find it in ourselves to get over this and realise that we're fantastic on our own and we don't need anyone else.

If you are with someone else, then maybe there is still some feeling there. Just carry on with your life and forget about him. You obviously don't love him anymore, as for the last year, you haven't been bothered. We all like to think that our exes are traumatised after finishing with us and will never be happy again, I know I've been there!! But people move on and you must too. Good luck

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (13 January 2006):

eyeswideopen agony auntHumm...let's see...you went out for only 4 months and have been broken up for a whole year and now it's killing you that he has found someone else. Well I suggest you best start getting on with your life. Find a hobby, get a therapist, take a class, anything to get your mind on something other than this ancient history. Life is too short to waste time on deadends.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (13 January 2006):

Mr.Ed agony auntStop and think for just a second.....................50 states, 7 continents, tons of countries and your hung up on ONE guy? Have you looked at another man since him? Hunny, you really need too. It's been a year and what have you done? Get out there and just say hello to ONE guy today! Just one! See where that takes you.

Sincerely

Ed

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, CCNJ +, writes (13 January 2006):

You don't like him all over again. You simply haven't found someone else yet (or he hasn't found you). If you're anything like myself- you fall in love quickly...but it doesn't mean that the person you fell for was the right one for you. Just remember that you broke up for a reason. You deserve someone who will be completely in love with you where you can see it in his eyes. If you settle for less- you're cheating yourself.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "We broke up a year ago. Now I found out he is in a new relationship and it has killed me... Why!?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.031272700005502!