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writes:I have lived with this girl for 3 years. She recently started talking to some other guy and left me. The problem is im pretty sure she is being manipulated. This guy kicked me out of the house we bought together and controlls who she talks to. Everytime she calls me she acts like nothing happened untill I mention him and she starts a fight , claiming, that I am ''controlling''im extremely worried as I was supporting her financially, as she made minimum wage and he will not help with her bills. How do I convince her that he is playing with her head? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2014): I think you need to work on resolving the issue with your house. Consult a lawyer. Your ex gf will have to work out the issues with this new man. I guess you can take some sort of legal action against him since he has no right to kick you out of your home?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 December 2014):
Your problem is DEFINITELY not the girl, it's the house. Forget about her romantically and get your house back.
She'll learn on her own the hard way.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 December 2014):
 You write: "The problem is im pretty sure she is being manipulated."
WRONG!!!! That is not "the problem." The problem is that YOU have, in effect, abdicated your standing in this house. NOW you have to back-track and get that changed. Follow honeypie's and AuntiBimbim's advise.... and GET THAT HOUSE BACK... WITHOUT ex-G/F (and her new B/F) in it!!!
Forget the romance that you think you had with this girl... and focus on this new, real problem....
Good luck....
P.S. (to olderthandirt): I still share ownership of a couple of pieces of property with an "Ex-".... BUT... when we bought the property we made a real PARTNERSHIP (which is the "name" on the deeds).... and, so far, all is going well..... 4 years later....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 December 2014):
 If your name is on the deed to the house and YOU pay the mortgage, you NEED to have THEM evicted.
I STRONGLY suggest you find legal help and get your PROPERTY back.
And honestly, STOP enabling her by paying HER bill (unless it's the mortgage) and then PAY it in YOUR name NOT hers.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 December 2014):
 Gather together all paperwork dealing with the house, if your name is not on the deed or mortgage you may experience difficulty proving the house is part yours.
You may be able to use bank statements which show regular payments towards house payments or utilities or other costs associated with home ownership. If you were supporting her and are able to also show this with paperwork, statements etc, include those in your collection of paperwork.
Once you have gathered all your evidence together seek reputable legal advise on how best to stake your claim on the house.
I think once they realize you are not going to just lay down and take it,but that you have legal rights to the house and are going to take action he will leave. You may need to reconsider getting back with the fickle girlfriend.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 December 2014):
 Real Estate Rule # 1...Never buy a property with someone otherhan a legal spouse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2014): She will probably just have to foul up her life for a while and learn the hard way. You have an emotional bias so she will use that to rationalize away any argument you make, even though you may be right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2014): There's nothing that you can do to help her directly.
Now, how on Earth can somebody kick you out of your own home, the home that you own no less?
It would be beneficial for her as well if you calle dthe authorities. This is unacceptable.
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